I date this same guy in the summer. We stopped dating after a couple of months because he was not ready to get serious and needed to slow down he said. He wanted be friends though. We have been communicating a lot, emails, some phone calls and have seen each other a couple of times for coffee and he picked me up at a train station to take me to my friends house. He is going thru some tough times in regards to some real estate issues and is very stressed out. He told me it is hard for him to share things with people and told me that he has been dealing with that. I sent him a couple of things in the mail, to make him happy, a cd and then some healing crystals, which he said he was very grateful that I thought of him. He has been very supportive for me with a death in my family that recently occured. He is a very spiritual person. I tell him he is my angel that came into my life to make me a better person, which I truly believe. He sent me this email yesterday about giving me a hug and about god and that even if one person reaches out to someone it is more than other people may have in a life time. He was reaching out to me with a genuine heart to let me know he cares and that god loves me, and so does he. that made my day. I believe he does care, I know he does. I am happy with the way things are going. I told him I am dating, but not finding anyone yet, who deserves to be with me, just yet. He did not say anything about that. I know he is not with anyone else right now as he told me that is the least of his worries with what he has to deal with at work and his home being sold. I told him I wish I could do something for him, but I can only send good thoughts his way. He said that made him smile. i just hope some day this can turn into something more and better than what it was the first time we met. He is the nicest and kindest guy I have ever known, very respectful and sweet. I have not been anyone since I was with him. I usually have my back up guys, buy I am trying to move forward with my relationships not backwards, and have given up lots of my old bad bootie calls. This is why I think this guy came into my life, to make me a better person. i just need to continue on this expansion of our relationship from this perspective and see where it goes. I guess anything is possible.
Ok, I'm going to play devil's advocate, and only because I have hear that same excuse before, and I have used it myself. Not ready to get serious, etc. It could be possible that he thinks you're a great person, but not his type to get committed with, and he doesn't have the ability to tell you that you're not his type. I once met this really nice woman who I got along with, but I didn't quite approve of her previous lifestyle, and even though was in the past, I still felt I deserved better; and as she said, we clicked so well, but I made the choice to break it up with the excuse of not being ready to commit, and I needed time to concentrate on my profession; I couldn't quite tell her that I felt uncomfortable about her past, so that was the easiest, safest way out.
I appreciate your answers. I wish nothing but the best for this guy and I hope he finds happiness however it may come to him. I am happy we are friends and I guess that is all I can be grateful for, huh? - 8 months ago
:) It sounds more like you need reassurance than any answer! I say keep trying and good luck! It sounds like you're a great person and good things will happen to you.
I am not going to push it. As long as he wants to stay in my life, then I am going to keep him around. Thanks. I appreciate your thoughts. - 8 months ago
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