I totally freaked out on my boyfriend and now he's scared about when I might have another episode. What to do?

She's trying to get him back. It's good that you want to fight, but seriously, if the guy is supposed to be with you, then he should be with you. It could be that he's just not the right guy for you. Think about it a bit...

Sounds like he has some interest in his ex. You probably shouldn't have freaked out, but everyone does sometimes and just explain to him that you are worried of losing him. If he cares about you, he will realize that.
On the other hand, it's obvious to you that she wants him back, and he should see that his decision to consider taking her back over you hurts you. If he really cared that much, he would assure you that you're the girl he wants and leave it at that.

My honest opinion: I think anyone would freak out if their crying ex tried to break your relationship with your boyfriend. I know I have been through this for a long time! It was not worth the anger though I felt throughout my relationship. I think if anything, don't FREAK out. Stay calm, be mature about it. Show him that she doesn't bother you but make it clear that you and him are together. And he should be as affectionate and understanding to you as possible as he is with you and not with her! I can understand her point of view too that she would want him back because she did love him- and still does apparently. But she should know her place as they broke up and are no longer together and should never try to get with her ex boyfriend because he is no longer single. You should explain that to him calmly how you feel about the situation. Don't apologize like a crazy girlfriend... he will think you're too much as guys don't like when girl's cry. I didn't realize that until I have done that with my own ex and he just kept on telling me, "Please don't cry." And it most likely pushed him away because they just cannot deal with that because some guys are just not good at 'controlling girls' in that kind of situation. They don't want to feel guilty like anyone doesn't want to feel pressure. Unforunately he will have to talk to this ex but he should explain that he is with you. He has to move on, if he hasn't. You guys can all meet and see how it goes. But if you do see her, act cool, don't be the jealous girlfriend--- she should be the jealous ex girlfriend. lol That will only turn him off to see her get all ugly about you while you seem relaxed and confident of who you are.

he can't use that as an excuse.
tell him to cut out all contact with this troublesome ex and he should understand.
i've never had to fight for my man either so I know how it feels.

I think you should end things with him. You need to show that you are in charge of the relationship too, so if you have one little freak-out then he should deal with it. He is just using it as an excuse so he can get back with his ex without making it look like it is his fault. If he still has feelings for this other girl than he is obviously not worth the while. And this is totally not worth be temporary, especially if this girl is gonna come back and try to get him back. If he knew she was coming back or they were getting back together, then he is the one who messed things up, because she is coming back and now he is sort of second-guessing. He obviously knew they would be back together at some time, so it is kind of like it was a temporary thing. So he is not worth it and you should just break up with him now. Best wishes and good luck. : )

jealousy comes from insecurity and it doesn't solve anything. you can't make someone want to be with you or stay with you, you just have to trust that he wants to be with you. she can want him and try to get back with him all she wants but she can't make him want her either. he has a will of his own and if he chooses to spend his time with you be happy and enjoy it. don't fight for him you'll only make tension in your relationship and put a strain on it. have fun and remind him of all the reasons he wanted to be with you to begin with.

You know, I'm not one to call people names, but your boyfriend sounds like a real self centered asshole. Red flags should have been popping up everywhere as soon as he said "If it weren't for you ... then I wouldn't have talked to my ex."
Bullshit. He's a grown ass man, he can take responsibility for his own actions.

Right now he's using your vulnerable moment as a way to keep his options open. When his ex gets back, he's going to use your insecurity to play you both - "Oh I had to talk to her because you were being so difficult ... blahblahbullshit" - and he'll probably end up trying to sleep with both of you until one of you smartens up and realizes that he's a snake.

You had a vulnerable moment, your insecurity got the best of you - that happens. If he was such a concerned and loving boyfriend, he would have reassured you that you were worrying over nothing, because there was nothing to worry about. Instead, he not only BLAMES you for his actions but he's using your break down as a way of controlling your behavior. Making you feel guilty for having an emotional moment, like that is so uncommon.

My vote is that he's using you, and will continue to use you until his ex comes home, probably even after she get home. I don't know if you want to stay with him, stranger things have happened, but if so, you're going to have to learn to stand up for yourself. You're only responsible for your own behavior - and he's responsible for his.
Good luck.

That's a very mean thing for him to hang over your head. I really don't like dealing with exes myself. I found out that if you have to stress out about having to prove yourself worthy and fight to prove it than it's not worth it. It's not worth the stress and the hassle. If he can't see how much you put into the relationship and him than he's not worth your time. It sounds like you really love him. But you have to look out for yourself. If he wants to be with you than the truth will come out eventually. Pitting you up with his ex is not fair.