Can you just be friends with your ex?

Nope you can't be just friends with your ex, for example my ex and I are pretty much friends with benefits at this moment I love the fact I only want sex from her, but my problem is she wants more than just sex, but the point is you can't just be friends with an ex.

I have only been able to maintain a friendship with one of my exes. Granted we don't really see each other that much anymore, maybe once or twice a year, but that is due to her moving away. We do get along great though. Out of all my other exes I have not been able to remain friends because they were never a big enough person to get over their jealous mental state. Thing would be fine until I started to date someone else and the turned on me and they wanted me to choose between them as a friend and the new girlfriend and 99.9% of the time I will always choose the person not making me choose. I would love for my exes and I to still be friends. But I don't think it could ever really happen.

I'm still friends with 2 of my exes. Surely, we maybe talk once a month or so, but when I'm in town, we make it a point to hang out, have lunch or dinner. One of them got married, and I get along with the husband very well; we have even hung out a couple of times. It all comes down to the level of maturity and respect you have. When I hang out with the exes, I never bring out the past as that would be disrespectful, since one is married, and the other one has a boyfriend. Also, it depends on the guys they date; so far, both of them date men that don't have any issues with me, and I don't give them anything to be concerned about me. Then again, I also have a girlfriend. I must say though, the exes I remained friends with are those that are also mature enough to handle the situation. So yes, is possible, but it has to do a lot with the people involved, and how 'mature' they are in handling the situation.

As long as both people are in agreement then I think it can work. At least it has for me. So far!

Agreed. It usually never works out. One acts jealous when they shouldn't, they just end up arguing over the same shit when they were together etc. But , I have seen it work. But it is very rare.

Never say never. I agree it usually won't work out. But I know some girls who have stayed friends with ex-boyfriends. I also know some girls who have stayed friends with ex-husbands! All depends. But you need to first have some down-time and real separation -- where you don't see or talk to your ex at all. The down-time allows the romance to die. Only after the romance dies -- I mean really and completely dies -- can a long-term friendship spring back up in its place. It takes time -- sometimes lots of time. It also helps a lot if both of you have moved on to other partners, and are in happy relationships.

I guess it depends if you are still in love with that person. In my case I am madly in love with my ex. Granted it has only been a month since we are apart. Every time he sees me he starts calling me baby and wants to have sex-but then ends the night with " I don't know what I want. Blah blah blah". I hope that the men don't think I am not being mature. I just have very strong feelings and since he does not feel the same way, being his friend and then seeing him with another girl would be like watching my dog die and then having my mom tell me I can keep it. :-(