Do women Like and Love guys more who treat them like crap in a relationship?

Um, it really depends on the girl. No one likes it, but some guys have girls under their control like that. Some girls will get a guy that they really like, and put everything they have into the relationship, so much that they'd be willing to let their boyfriend get away with anything. Of course, when people get a little bit of freedom, they continue to push to see how much they can get. A small slap turns into a full-out punch. Flirting with other girls turns into sex with other girls. But, some of these guys are crafty enough to convince the girl that they still love them, and if the girl really wants to believe him, then she'll put up with it. It's really sad, but it happens all the time.

A lot of the time, they're just afraid of what will happen if they end it. An abusive guy could beat the girl mercilessly. A guy that's a player or a jerk will usually have the girl convinced that no one else would ever want to date her. A lot of the time, girls that get into these kinds of relationships have low self-esteem, and when the relationship's good, they feel like the most special person in the world. However, when it's bad, they feel completely horrible, but still don't want to let it go because of the good parts.

It's not that simple. No healthy girl involves themselves in that type of situation. The only woman who would is a girl who has some sort of abuse in her childhood or past that she was never able to cope with effectively and to her that kind of behavior is normal. A healthy girl with a loving home would never date a guy who hit her or stay with a cheater unless she had a massively unhealthy past and/or abusive history. NO woman likes to be treated like crap. Some women just expect that because it's all they've ever known and they aren't aware there is something better for them in the world. Until they get the help they need, they probably never will.

They don't actually want a bad boy. They want a combo... a guy that can give them playful attention by teasing them, but still knows how to be respectful about it. Simple as that. They want a balance. The problem is that not many guys know this, and they try to be one or the other, when they should try to have a sweet & sour combo. : )

no not at all

That can happen to guys too. They never talk about it though.

absolutely not! I left all that drama crap behind in highschool!

When they are very young and insecure.

If I knew the guy and he still was a jerk I wouldn't date him. If I caught no sign and got in a relationship with him I wouldn't stick around if I knew he was flirting or hitting me cause I'm completely uncomfortable with that. I've had friends who've done taht and it's crazy...I ask them why and they just go along with whatever. I've even had friends push me away because the GUY said that she couldnt' be friends me cause I was telling her the truth so they wanted me to stay away. AND what hurts the most is that they believed him ... guys are so decietful sometimes

Most girls are attracted to drama.
But if they treat me like crap it's over and I never give second chances. Doesn't matter how the story played out, they had their shot.

Maybe its because they weren't always like that and when women fall in love they fall for it hard...Especially when we think they love us back...And them time goes by and you become used to being with the person and then they flip the switch and you become scared because you don't know what's going to happen in your life if you leave...And then we come up with the excuses "its my fault" "I made him angry" "He's just having a bad day." and then out of desperation we beg ourselves to hold on, and keep that hope that there is a change in him, just around the corner. And by this point we are so tired of the abuse, we leave, or we give up on life and stop caring...What's life without love.

because if we see one little good thing they did we cling to it with hope, I actully wear a braclet now that reminds me that hope actully gets me hurt. I've been in several situations were I've been with a bad guy. Sometimes its the fear you might not be with another guy other times you don't wanna hurt them even though they hurt you.

Well it depends a lot on the girl I mean if a guy cheats on me or dares to hit me their gone but I know a lot of girls who have stayed and I think every situations different I think its partially because in the beginning everything is great sh*t doesn't really hit the fan until later and by then your already in love and don't want to end it so many dismiss it in hope that it was a one time mistake and that is not who they really are I think every girl who has ever fallen in love with a guy like that just hopes they will change and by the time that they realize they won't they are a mental mess.

Girls don't love guys like this and most certainly don't want a relationship like this but usually guys who are like this are usually very deceiving in the beginning, they act like the sweetest most understanding perfect boyfriend in the world and then once they have your trust then they know theyve got you and then after months of being sweet and affectionate then their true colors start to come out and by then its hard to leave because you're already in love with them.Then when you try to leave them they put you down even more and make you believe there is no other guy out there for you.I know most girls would say that is being weak but its hard when you love someone because you want them to be the perfect boyfriend they were in the beginning.Every girl at some point has experienced this.Usually it happens when the girl was already vulnerable to begin with and that's when the "bad guy" usually steps in.Ive been in this situation before and I had and still do keep telling myself that my ex is not worth it and he will never change.My advice to you though would be to not be like one of those guys.If you're a nice guy stay that way and it will pay off.Dont end up like those those jerks because eventually theyll end up alone or arrested for abuse!

i would never stay in a realationship with a man that abuses me not just physical but mental abuse is a lot to.i like being treated with love,trust and respect.many women stay with the guys thinking they will change.but they never do.

I know right? There's this girl who is obsessed with this guy at my school. She carved his name in her arm and says she still loves him even though he hits her and is going out with like 10 different girls.

And he doesn't even look that good!

I don't get it. I mean some girls are so blinded by love it's ridiculous.

Its mostly a self-esteem issue

No. Girls stick up for the guys because they feel like they love them, and they'll stop, and the girls are usually the abused or shy type. If a guy cheated on me, I'd see why, and get his side of the story. But I'd probably leave him anyway.

we don't like to be treated like crap. but, we don't want a guy that's too sappy and annoyingly sweet all the time either

well here's the thing I may be young but my older sister went through this sh*t with a guy who beat the living hell out of her.she was pregnant and he still beat her well she was scared for her life he had her scared to death she had a miss carriage because of that f***er well some girls just are either too afraid to leave the man because they are very insecure and think that guys are all the same.But personally when it comes to cheating some girls have no problem with that they just let it go.it depend on the girl an how she thinks about all of it.if someone tried to do all that to me I would kill that bastard

I feel that the reason why some of them do that is because of low self-esteem or self-confidence. The girl feels like she won't be able find anyone better so she sticks to the guy and puts up with him. But that's just my opinion.

it depends on who the female is. me I can see a guy cheating maybe once casue sh*t happens but if its recurring then I'm done. but some girls feel that they can't get anyone better than the person they're with. the thing is he took her self esteem waaay down telling her she's ugly and she can't get anyone better than them. that's sometimes why they stay.

No. Women do not like guys who treat them like sh*t. Although a lot of females can't stand a guy that is too sensitive (pretty much like dating another female) does not mean they want to be treated like trash. I think they like a guy to tell them what to do (not controlling them) but still give them their respect and allow them to voice their opinions. A guy that makes her feel secure at all times.

I don't get why people would put them self in a situation like that. To me its stupid. But I can see why people stay
sometimes they real life is abusive, like have an abusive mom dad or something like that so they think its normal
sometimes people stay cause they want or think they could change that person way of thinking. (stupid)
sometimes some girl feel like you know probably this is the only guy they might have so they think or act out of desperation. Maybe cause he act like he care cause after they hate you they usually bringing you sh*t or apologize or something like ( that the mind of the person being abused)
sometimes I just don't get it either, some people like being hit or something.

Woman who know what they want and feel positive and love themselves would not love or accept anyone treating them badly. So I guess no woman don't like that, everyone want love and kindness no matter what they say or thyink, its part of human nature I guess.

i was never attracted to guys like that ever.
but I had a time in my life where I was just finding someone to care
unfortunate that guy was the type you mentioned
ie. assault.
and yeah, I don't understand it.
but at that time where I went out with this ex-bf of mine, it was because of an unstable family life and in experience in relationships. those were my 2 main reasons back then, I've learnt and gotten stronger emotionally since then so that mistakes don't happen again tho

LOL your question is weird. I don't think any women wants or love to be treated like crap. I know I don't. There must be plenty of reasons why they stick with these guys. First, he treated her like a queen, she falls in love later he shows his true self like hitting her etc. She loves him so badly until she cannot see that he mistreat her and she would stick with him because she believes he can change, he will love her etc etc. But the truth he will never change because that's the real him. What are the chances the guy will change in a short time? maybe 1% but as you said it's going to get worse. The guy get worse because he thinks she will love him anyway no matter how they act. The girl keep on boosting the guy's confidence lower her standard just because of attachment and love where really she doesn't realize that she has to love herself first then him. However, when it hits the limits she finally realize that the guy is a bum and doesn't love her so she tried to move away and get better. I don't think anyone deserves to be treated like sh*t. If you love somoene, you want to give the best for them not the worse. To sum this up, the woman is blinded by love or she might be too young or inexperienced to know what healthy rel. is or should be.

I am with a guy who treats me like that and after 5 years, and being aware that its wrong,The only thing I can say its like being blind and stuck and on top of that scared, I hate every moment of my life that he's in it and I cry most of the day not being able to believe even to this day that he can treat me like that, but I make excuses for him and he plays mind games, honestly the only way I can see myself get out of this is into a psych ward to be drugged and get over this or death. and what's even worse is I don't resemble myself one bit I'm this form he's brainwashed me in, even with myfamily I don't feel comfortable anymore.

girls can be horrible too, but I would never in my life provoke someone and degrade them on prupose but after taking abuse for so long sometimes I say somethigns like he does and it kills me because I'm not that person

no way do we like or love guys more because they treat us like crap!

the females who are into these guys are into them for other reasons, possibly because they were so good in the beginning and so they got attached to these guys.

Sometimes the girl is just blind to the guys faults and sometimes the faults only show up once the girl is completely in love with the guy. My friend is with a guy at the moment, he's a complete asshole towards her and towards me and her other friends. We've tried to make her see that he's not good for her - she won't eat, she's always worrying about what he'll say if she's late or doesn't look her best etc. We sat her down yesterday - for the millionth time - to tell her that she needs to take a break from him for a while - but no use... she went straight over to his place after.

Girls stay with guys like this because they lack the confidence to realise that if they only take a look around them they will find some one way better and who is going to treat them the way they should be treated.

I think there are more women in healthy loving relationships than in abusive relationships. But they don't get the same attention because if there is nothing to complain about - you have nothing to hear.
Whether it's mental or physical - manipulation of insecurities plays a big part in abuse. It isn't anything that happens quickly, it's insidious, gradual. Starts out with admiration and charm, which turns into extremely controlling behavior - tempered with guilt. Most people, men and women, don't notice the changes in the relationship until it's too late. You're wooed with charm but kept there with intimidation and isolation. A lot of women don't even understand what's going on because they can't differentiate between concern and control. It's a sad thing and can be so damaging to the victims involved.
I honestly don't feel that women set out wanting to be abused, they are just so many women who feel insecure - and just as many men who prey on that insecurity. You'll find that most abusive men are serial abusers; they have the manipulation down to an art. Women come to depend on their partners to make them feel accepted and validated. Most women blame themselves for not being good enough, and seek out the same type of men that hurt them before. It's a sad and ugly thing.

Like I said, though, most women look for men that complement them - but those go unnoticed. Bad news draws more attention, I guess.

It is called low self esteem...well that is what it turns into anyways...when the first signs of abuse go on..the woman thinks that it was just a bad night..makes excuses,and still madly inlove with them..so easily can be forgiven, and of course he is always so apologetic the next day...these abusers are usually very manipulative and conniving. So after the abuse still goes on..she realizes that this is never going to change, but at that point she feels helpless, and stupid, ashamed, and generally mentally not her self..as her self esteem is now gone...it takes a lot of strength and courage to leave those kinds of situations...trust me I did it myself for many, many years,I am no longer in that situation and I am very happy...all women get there eventually, it all depends on the strength of character she has and how much she can tolerate,...it may take a long time..as it usually does in these situations,...Love is literally blind, but like I said when the love is gone, and nothing but hate remains, they will still stay as they do not have the courage to leave, but one day they will...

My sister's boyfriend hit her once. Just once, in the heat of an argument. That was the last straw for her though. He was lazy and not social-always wanted to stay home and made little effort with our family. I liked him though, until she told me that. Anyway, they lived together, so he went to the couch. She got a dog without telling him (he found it when he came home). She found a new job, a new apartment. Then she broke it off, after two years. He was decent enough to help her move, and later he tried to get her back, apologised, but she moved on. So not all girls like to be treated like crap.

u kinda anserwed ur own question we stick around with them because they tell us were ugly and no1 else will want us so we let that sink in and we believe no1 will ever like us as much as them also because when we try to leave they wil cry to make us feel bad for them and we give in and they do it over & over

I've had abusive relationships.I was young and dumb.I thought it was cool and knowing my temper I can get a little crazy myself.So I used to blame myself for the actions on the reason why I would get choked and yelled at. I even had male friends who would verbally abuse me like they would be the only ones would find me attractive and actually listen to me speak.Females don't know this but being in relationships like this can cause mental damage. My caousin have an abusive baby daddy but she honestly thinks it's cute.I asked her about why he so crazy all she did was smile seriously she smiled.

i know someone whos been in an abusive relationship for over 20 yrs. he's hit her, choked her and pulled guns on her. he terrorizes her into believing he will harm her if she leaves and kill her mother if he can't find her. he controls everything she does, everywhere she goes and has convinced her that he would take the kids from her if she took them and ran. he has completely brain washed her, altho he probably is unstable and violent enough to hurt someone if she left.

I have never been hit by a guy. And I don't believe I've been cheated on either. But I have had asshole boyfriends many, many times. I'll explain to you why, but first I must say that my physical "type" just happens to be bad boys. Now, not bad boys in the abusive sense - but country guys with tattoos who are reckless, drive the roaring pick-up trucks, and have a troubled reputation. That's just what I'm attracted to... hyper-masculinity, I guess.

But I have dated nice guys before, and it hasn't worked because *they gave me everything*. Their confidence and self esteem changed *based* on their interactions with me. Guys who are attractive have CONFIDENCE. I don't know how much I can stress that. These guys that I like are independent of me, have their own things going for them, and don't act like "the girl" in the relationship (i.e. calling all the time/crying all the time).

I had one boyfriend who wouldn't leave my side when I took him to the bar. I could understand it since he didn't know the friends I brought with, but those weren't his reasons. He was INSECURE about my attraction to him, so he was afraid that other guys would take me away from him. That's a "girl thing" in my eyes. Girls get really insecure and jealous and it's annoying. But when guys do it, it takes them a notch down.

1) Bad boys KNOW why you're with them. It's the confidence.
2) Nice guys QUESTION it. They make the GIRLS DOUBT the relationship because of it.

i have no idea some girls are just stupid. I don't know any girls whose boyfriend hits them, but I know when they cheat the girl takes them back or the guy! I don't understand but I guess you just don't know unless you are in their shoes.

Thats just the way it is dude... love it or leave it... just the way lotsa girls wanna live- I say forget them wenches. Too many good women who will do roght by a good amn.

I'm sorry bro, but with this question, you clearly don't understand women. See they tend to go with these "jerks", because they are confident, and not clingy. Look at it this way: would she prefer a guy that clings to her all day, buys her stuff ALL THE TIME, calls her 25 times a day, or a guy who is calm, doesn't buy her a lot of gifts(flowers,jewelry,etc.) but when he does, it counts, and doesn't call her every minute, but just calls her a few times and gives her the gift of "missing him"?

it gets me mad wen it happens because it happened to a good friend of mine. but it p*sses me off even more wen the girl goes back because she still has feelings.just like the Great Gatsby or any movie you would see the good guy takes a whole movie to prove the girl to change her mind and he's better.

i know someone in this situation tha tyou have described.
The problem is they are scared, and scared of the consequences of leaving the guy. Generally it isn't about physically scared but that if they get out of the relationship that no other guy will want them. This is due to the scumbag of a fella degrading and abusing her.

I believe when with a women they should be treated with respect and to b an onlooker to this it is so hard to keep it in.

So to finish, the reason a girl doesn't leave is because of more fear of rejection and having even less self esteem

Because these girls have zero self-esteem and don't think they deserve better. They were likely raised by a single mother and had no idea of what a proper male acts like. These girls are as sick as the guys who abuse them, because they crave being treated so poorly. They say they want to find a good guy, but they would spit on one if they found him. In part, the guys they date are often either in demand, and it makes them feel good to know they're dating a guy who other girls want, regardless of how bad he is, or the guy has some problem like a drug addiction that the girl feels needed by thinking she can fix him.

No one wants or likes to be treated like crap. Ever. It's a self esteem issue. As long as their with someone, they feel safe and some what happy..even if the person doesn't actually make them happy.

i think its cause the guy is "HOT" and they don't want that not as hot guy but knows he will treat her right
because he's hot

If you check into this you'll find the guy drives a Porsche, or flies a plane, or has a trust fund...women in the US will put up with almost anything if the guy has money...

you don't have to treat them like crap but they will not respect you if you don't stand up to them and are a rug for them to walk on .. You do have to be a prick at times but not all the time .. It is true the nice guys do finish last . I have don't my experaments on this trust me if your to nice and insecure they will run from you or use you then run ..

They don't want to go into unfamiliar territory...

change

they stick around because ine the beginning they think they can change the guy. then tht dream is shattered after a while. also it is not a choice they are forced to stay. they stay because of what the coward says to her, things like your ugly or no1 else wants you. there are many other thing tht are said(I jus don't feel comfortable saying them) still each harsh word is a blow to how she views herself and herself esteem. verbaly he has worn her dwn. then it gets physical (if it hasn't already) it not tht she don't want to to leave she is afraid to leave. abusive guys don't take rejection too well no mater how much its deserved so leaving is almost out of the question out of fear of what he will do i.e "i hunt you dwn" or "i'll burn your house dwn" the only reason I kno this is because I'm dating a girl who recently with help, got out of a relationship like tht. I kno you asked women but I answerd anyway.

its really just a sign of immaturity they want a bad guy cause they wanna be rebellious we all do when were teenagers they see nice guys as the long term guy he'll be around forever so lets get into trouble first before settling down. I've never understood that way of thinking but it happens. once you get to a certain age things start changing. the girls start realizing they want something better so they settle for the nice guy but still want a bit of the bad boy flare. this is not how it always ends up but most the time this is the case.
right now the girls that like good nice guys in this age group is few and far between but if they are really this immature than do you really want to be with them? if so then change yourself a bit, be nice but still look and act like a protector. that's one thing I learned pretty fast is the less like a nice guy I looked the more attractive I looked to the girls. well now I have a wonderful girlfriend that loves me for me and so now I don't have to be a nice guy pretending to be something else.
but just keep a look out watch people make their mistakes and don't follow in their path. the right girl will come around and if they really are any worth to you then you don't have to be a bad or good guy just be yourself and they will love you for that.

Three reasons:

1) Women love, get turned on by and are stimulated by emotional drama.

2) Many women get turned on by and are stimulated by being dominated/controlled.

3) Women get turned on by and are stimulated when they know you can have/get other women.

Most women will never admit to these (as you will soon see from the hate) but, deep inside ...
Throw in some family dysfunction growing up ("dad was an alcoholic") and this is what you get.

Certainly, not all, but many more than you, or they, would like to think.

You have a sample skew. Only a small percentage of women find that appealing and most of them age out it pretty quickly. The emotional intensity is invigorating and the sex tends to be romantic and hot (battererers are hands down the most most romantic people on earth, they have to be get someone to stay when they are abusing them).

I tend to stay away from people who attracted to drama simply because their life is a rolling trainwreck and if I am part of it, I am going to be there for the crash. No thanks.