nyla218

Having a hard time getting over my ex been a year!
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nyla218 (Age:30 to 35)     When: 4 months ago
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So I dated this girl for about a year, and we had a great time, got along, all that.

She had a rough past and didn't want to be in a relationship so we were just together but pretty much in a rel. I didn't like it but it was kind of the same thing. After about a year though I was kind of tired of that so we broke it off.

Ive seen her here and there, and saw her last night as well. I always get sad when I see her but I'm not sure if I miss her, as much as I miss the relationship.

I also get so angry that she never gave me a real chance, and that makes me really get down. How do I get past this!? I go nuts thinking about it at times, and think of her every day it seems..

Help :(
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  • Kimii
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    Kimii
    4 months ago
    Yes you have to try and get over her. I know it's hard but yea... On the first day of the break up, girls usually cry and guys usually just celebrate but as time goes by the girl celebrates and the guy regrets it. On and off relationships are not good, just forget about her and move on. Believe me... I'm in the same situation :(( It's hard...

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    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      You're so right. That is totally what happens. It just sucks that's all. But it's funny because I think I just miss having someone by my side, and not necc I miss the girl, if that makes any sense? I mean we def. had fun, but I guess it wasn't meant to be
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    Anonymous User
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    Anonymous User
    4 months ago
    if she isn't interested you can make her change her mind, just try to move on..

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    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Yup that's basically what it is!
  • easyzombie
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    easyzombie
    4 months ago
    Is she with anyone right now? If not, why not call her, take her somewhere nice couple of times and see if you two could try again?

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    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Yea I might, I guess it was just bad timing timing really is everything
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      So what? You can still give it a try
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      well I'm friends with one of her friends and asked if she was dating or seeing someone and the friend told me that she liked a guy so that kind of made me upset
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    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      How do you know she likes him?
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      Well but at least you will know that you tried. If you won't try, the thought that you two could get back together could hunt you for a long time, and you might regret you didn't try. If she will reject you I think it will be easier for you to move on as you will know there's nothing to do about it
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      it just makes me upset that she now likes this guy, but would always say she couldn't be in a rel with me because of her past, but now likes a guy and would be in one with him? Such bullsh*t
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Well I know she likes this guy but she's not dating, and yea I could do that, but I'm afraid to seem desp or get rejected then feel even worse! UGH
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    4 months ago
    You just need to move on. Stop thinking about her

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    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Its not easy! Itd be easy if we broke up cause of something that happened between, us but for something I had nothing to do with her past you know? Just bothers me that's all
 

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  • Someone1
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    Someone1
    4 months ago
    If you have done everything you can and she still doesn’t appreciate it then there is no reason for you to keep thinking about her.

    The reason you are mad at her is because you value her more then you value yourself right now. Kick her off the pedestal and realize she isn’t all that great (even if she was) there is probably someone out there for you that is a better match.

    I’m going through the same thing, I know how painful it is too feel like you can’t do anything about it, but if she doesn’t serve your life and your thoughts any good then there is no point to raise her up in your mind.

    If you haven’t done everything you could do then by all means try it, but if you feel she won’t respond to it then just find someone who will appreciate your efforts instead.

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    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Wow that's deep man I wish you the best with it. guess keeping busy is good all that stuff, You're gonna be OK too my dude
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      I know I was good for her, and if she doesn’t

      Realize it then it’s not my fault because I tried my best at the time, until she told me that I was messing with her head, that’s when I decided to leave her alone and that was 2 months ago.

      I guess what’s helping me through is the fact that I did what was right, I wanted to repair the relationship and reconcile while she wanted to burn all bridges, at least it leaves me with the satisfaction that I actually did try something.
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      Exactly don't be or act desperate, the mistake I did when it ended for me was that I begged and pleaded for her to come back partly because It was a bit my fault that I took her for granted, I never thought she would ever leave me. This was about 4 months ago and it’s still hard.

      Now I'm just trying to pick up the pieces, socializing, meeting new people and pretty much put all my focus on myself and the future, whatever happens happens, if this is what she wants then let her have it,
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    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Thats very true man, I mean we did get along real well, that is just the part that blows, but I do know if and when I find someone else I will be fine. But I don't want to be desperate cause I'm not you know? What have you been doing?
    • Answerer
      4 months ago
      And that's even a better sign for you to leave, because if it was about the situation then it is not definitely the right person for you so much perhaps.

      But it's true, two people make up a relationship, it's not one-sided, if you really felt comfortable with the situation then ask yourself if it was you or her that made it so wonderful. Maybe you can feel those same emotions with some other woman that likes you even more?
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      And leaving her alone is my best thing to do. If she likes someone so be it, what can I do. Guess it just wasn't meant to be
    • Question Asker
      4 months ago
      Awesome answer man...that is def helpful. Its just not easy when you do all good stuff and it means nothing. I mean I think I miss the situation more than the person ya know
  
   
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