Okay, my boyfriend went out one night and cheated on me with some girl he met at a club. He had sex with her and the condom broke. They both went to get tested for HIV (me and my boyfriend had just gotten tested for HIV a couple weeks before this happened and we both were fine). Well, her test came up in-conclusive (or positive) and his was still negative. After all this happened he called me and told me everything about it and he apologized over and over for what he did behind my back. Okay, so he got tested and he's still negative. Now he wants the opportunity to get back with me. Should I get back with him considering the fact that he was man enough to admit to his mistakes? None of the men I've dated has ever come out and told me that they cheated, I always ended up finding out some other way. What do you think?
Well I don't think you should cause he did it once and you will all wise be wondering if he will again if he's out with his friends and you can't keep a leash on him cause he will only harbor resentment for it so I say part ways on good terms if you can that way no one is overly hurt.
Admitting it is nice but it would not be enough for me to take him back. He should have thought of you WHILE he was kissing her and WHILE he was putting the condom on. Plus, just because HIV hasn't shown up doesn't mean it won't in a few years. There are GREAT guys out there that would never cheat on the girl they love. Move on girl, you seriously deserve better! :)
Before you decide to get back with him or not you should be aware of the fact that HIV may stay dormant and may not show up on tests for up to several years. Although his test came back negative, because the girl he slept with was positive, there is a chance that he may have contracted the disease- it may not have shown up yet. So a) you should consider that he may have hiv- he should go back and get re-tested every 6 months. And b. ) just because he admitted cheating on you does not make it ok. Would you take him back if he continued to cheat on you repeatedly as long as he told you about it after? Its your call- I wouldn't take him back- but love is a powerful thing. But DEFINITELY make sure you don't sleep with him without protection because you may be at risk. Good luck
I would move on. You deserve better. You are young and should not found a long term relationship based on this baggage of events. The beginning of romantic, long term relationships should be filled with sweet, care-free bliss of romance and trust. Things get more complicated as the relationship endures time. Considering that you two are both still young, do you really want this to be the beginning of a partnership to hope the rest of your life is based on? Move on and find a new love with a clean slate and learn from this experience. Try to find out where you both went wrong and find a guy that has all your exes great qualities along with greater fidelity towards you. This guy is an idiot for playing around behind your back. There are a lot of great men out there that will make you fall in love again and you will be happy once again. Just takes a strong woman to realize that you made a mistake and you can move ahead strong and strutting yourself to a new man that deserves your love. Good luck!
No. The test isn't even the issue. He would not have had to put you through this if he would have stayed faithful. You will never be the same. No trust. Who cares if he admitted it to you? He did it and you deserve better.
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