Sex is essential to a relationship

I think that a healthy sex life is essential for a healthy relationship. Although,... I'm not really sure if it's that a good sex life make a good relationship,.... or if a good relationship makes a good sex life. More I see,... it's a good relationship that leads to great sex.

You are absolutly right though,.... there is that point in relationships where it just goes "Poof!" and from there your not really as interested in crazy sex,.. or any for that matter. Usually it's not at the same time as your partner, and that's where the trouble comes from, and where it all starts falling apart (it can really hurt your partner when they come into the room,.. covered in peanut butter and honey, and all you want to do is sleep,... actually,.. maybe I shouldn't share personal stories).

Anyway,..... I truly think that when you hit that point in a relationship,.. and you feel like you want to get that feeling back, then you are with someone that you truly care for. It's then that you put in the effort to get the spark back and to find new ways to excite each other. If you don't really think that you want to invest that time,.. then this person probably isn't really for you and it's time to move on.

I don't think it's key, but it plays a big part.

Good sex is super key, and without it I think the relationship is definitely doomed to fail -- unless you're BOTH at that age (like a hundred and one) where you just don' want to have sex -- with anybody anymore. In which case you start valuing personality and intelligence more than how well your uglies feel when they're bumpin against each other.

I think many people stay in crappy relationships, whether it be crappy sex, or just plain crappy all around, because it's more or less convenient. Usually for financial reasons, or because they both suck and nobody else can tolerate either of them.

A relationship is more than sex. If it's not good and you don't try and make it better, that's not the sex that's how you feel about the relationship. I dated a guy for 2 years and we never had sex once. We stayed together because it was deeper than that.
If you want sex to be better you have to make it that way. You have to talk to your partner and discuss what is going on in your mind and see if he feels the same way.

For me great sex is essential and to be honest all my relationships have been based on this- I could not stay with a guy who doesn't turn me on and couldn't satisfy me. I always pick guys based on physical attraction.