Why do most guys say they don't want a relationship?

Look at the way sitcoms and the media portray guys in relationships. Always miserable, unhappy with their wives and girlfriends, and having no freedom.

In so many small ways...
I guess some guys, do only want some girls for sex only...
Every girl has their own fighting chance with a guy.
As long as they are both attracted to each other, the girl has a fighting chance to be with that guy as she wants.
Don't try to make it as though all girls are innocent and want to be in long committed relationships. That's not the case...

I swear, females can be so confusing...
You care about some things that have no relevance.

Ex:
Just this weekend, my friend and his girl were arguing about who the guy from the hangover was dating...
He knew... but he didn't care.
She went so far as to leave, and lie about going to get some tissue, just so she could go and prove him wrong, and couldn't accept that he was right.
But even in being right, he didn't even care, which earned him the title of "a jerk" from her.
She was upset that he didn't care about that situation like she did.
Now how much sense does that make?
Those people are living their lives, and she is causing problems in their relationship...

Can you see what I mean...
I have sooooo many examples...

But don't make it like your not wanted.

Everything I do, in the end, is for a female.
For females...
I cut my hair
I futher educate myself for higher job positions
I keep a very clean house
Dress nice
...
So many things...
Just for the best of a relationship...

Don't make guys out to be the bad guys here.
Its always a cause and effect situation.
While your single, work on yourself to be the best possible future girlfriend/wife you can be.
So don't sit on here and complain about guys not wanting a relationship.
This is exactly the reason why they don't seek one so determined as females do.


Sincerely,
A Loving Black Man

"are we girls that bad to be with?" yes. many girls are simply not worth it.

"Cause I keep hearing from guys, 'i don't want the drama.' I mean, wow, like we are the only ones who bring drama." Women bring _far_ more drama than men do. I'm a business manager. I've managed groups of mostly men, and groups of mostly women. The men tend to work hard, don't complain much, and tend to offer practical win-win ideas that will benefit the company, me, and their fellow workers. Women, on the other hand, are more likely to be entitled. Women whine about everything, complain a lot more, file more petty formal complaints, get in useless pIssing contests and catfights with each other, and cost the company a hell of a lot more money. I'm not exaggerating even remotely. Routinely -- I mean every month -- a woman will ask to leave work early, and then complaint that her paycheck was short! We're paid by the hour, lady, if you leave at lunch, you don't have the right to get paid for the remaining 4 hours of the day. Men _never_ do crap like that.

So if the women I've managed are anything like the general population of women, I can see why guys don't want to commit to spoiled, inconsistent, selfish, whining girls.

Ever wonder why guys make such easier less stressful friends? This is because the maintence on male friendship is less strenious.

We say what we think and want and then use rationality to solve it, without emotion.

Emotions and feelings are things guy usually don't account too much and when you bring a women in, she challenges us to explore these areas. Some guys don't want to add this to their lievs or at least, aren't prepared for it.

We're like to drink the boozed without taking the AA class.

As a man who has read a book called "Marriage...And How To Avoid It", I am one of those men. Why? We have an impractical assumption that once we get in a relationship...our social lives are over. It's not because we're tough, it's because we are afraid. I'm saying this very humbly so I don't mean we are pussies. I'm just saying what most guys aren't willing to. We want that fun single life sometimes too much for our own good. So be gentle with us. Reassure us that we aren't going to be trapped under your hot black boots attached to your even hotter long legs...lol
Believe me, we want the relationship in the end, we're just scared about love just like the next guy/girl.

Straight up... I feel you... but just know that our thought process IS different.
We take things from what we see alot, so we see girls get all emotional, and to us, that's not something we wish to just want to deal with.
It really has to be the right female to make you not mind dealing with it.

Some guys must have something to offset the emtional stress.
Such as a pretty face, or a nice body.
I'll tell you this, most guys will go for a chick that can match wits with them.
Pound for Pound!

The best girls in my opinion, are the ones that are mostly like guys.
Less complaining, similar ideas and interest will get you just about any guy.

So its not like a disease, but we need to be matched with a female that equals out the possible stress factor we think we will receive within a relationship.

This is a inner-unrecognized characteristic, that I think most of all guys will agree with.
& relationships don't work a lot times on our end because we don't feel that our stress is being canceled out by what she's offering.

This may be a little hard to understand, but trust me its true!
All we want is to be happy.
Ask me anything... I'm more than willing to answer your questions.
I hope this helps! & Good Luck on your research of this question.


Sincerely,
A Loving Black Man