I've been dating this guy for a little over 3 months. And he is on the same emotional level as a rock. I've opened up to him plenty of times, yet every time we start to have a heart to heart he doesn't share anything, it's like he has these walls up and is afraid to let anyone in, and the worst part is I have no idea where I stand with him sometimes, like he'll not kiss me for days and then suddenly kiss me. The sad thing, I think I love him. And I want to say something, but I'm afraid I might get a rock-like response. Like he says he likes me, but does he mean something deeper. What do I do?
What you should do depends a lot on what kinda personality he has.
The bottom line is you need to let him know ( 3 months is a long enough wait )
The top line is HOW your going to let him know ( that's KEY, very very key =P)
If he's a hockey jock kinda guy, sometimes those guys need close to a slap (metaphorically, of course XD) to get them moving.
If he's fairly shy, seems to have a "wall up" to everyone, then just put him a situation it would be very hard to not open up =P.
Hard to explain, I re-read this post and I think "and what help is this gonna give her, I've just said what the other people have -_-. " but its hard to explain T_T. Don't know how to put the words, you gotta tell him based on his personality XD.
Every time I put him in a situation like that, he asks me my opinion and then changed the topic based on what I say. It's really frustrating. But ok, I'll try it. thanks : ] - 9 months ago
Give him time. But if your really tiered of this then try to tell him that you want to get to know his deepest thoughts. But start with easy?. Then go to the other kind of?. Don't tell him that you think that you love him just YET. Because you might scare him. Or he might react happly to it. But mostly I would say to not tell him yet. Maybe he does feel the same way. Not all guys are good with sharing feeling,thoughts,or things that we girls want to know. That's what sucks because sometimes that's what ruins a relationship. Also let him know that you could talk about anything. Maybe then you'll see some change. So try this. Hope that I could help. Good luck!
I'm the same way. I love my guy but am not even open at all. It's because I have something on my mind most of the time or have something to say but don't want to say it. Maybe he has a lot on his mind. Maybe he wants to say something but not yet. I hope this helps.
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 9 months ago
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