I am lost and confused

The answers didn't suck. What sucks for you is that you don't want to accept the reality. Go on and continue being the clingy, needy, loser boyfriend who has no respect for himself and acts like he can't get another girlfriend so he rather be his girls toy. Nobody talked about the perfect person but everybody deserves someone close to it, someone who treasures their partner and wouldn't hurt them or drop them as soon as someone else waves his dick in her face. Lame-O. Grow a pair, please. And if not, well, keep on adjusting to being that guy. You know, the dork some girls use as an ego boost, cheat on continuously, get anything and everything they can out of them and laugh at him behind his back because yes, he really is THAT pathetic.

What also sucks is your girlfriend.

Your girlfriend is very immature. Why would you want to continue a relationship with someone who feels the need to satisfy her "needs" via cybering when she has a perfectly fine, real life boyfriend? She has no respect at all for you. If a guy did this to me, I'd dump his sorry ass no matter how much I loved him. The only reason she didn't dump YOU is because that other guy wants/is trying to get with another girl but trust me she'd so dump you if she had the chance to be with him. Honestly, she doesn't love you, if she did, she wouldn't have done this. Chatting is fine, but she took it way too far. Kinda sick as well.

HAVE SOME SELF RESPECT! There are plenty of great girls out there waiting for you.

Wow. Well I personally would leave her instantly. How can you trust a girl who cybers with a guy? Imagine the things she was saying to her! She was probably saying things like, screw my boyfriend I want you. Basically the same as her having sex. Just leave her behind, and tell her you will get back together with her if she can prove her trust to you. Or tell her to completely ignore the guy and never talk 2 him again.

Anonymous girl was correct. You're weak and you've given her every reason to dump you. If she sticks around, it'll only be because the other guy doesn't anything more than sex. If you dump her now, you'll demonstrate that you're worth having - and she may ask to stay together.

Otherwise, it's already over. She'll stick around 'till she eventually finds a guy with some balls.

Geezus! Get some respect for yourself. She was my first girlfriend. So what? There will be a 2nd, and a third, and who knows how many others? There is no girl waiting for you? Who the hell said women were born to wait for you? Are you kidding me? Seriously, no wonder you got such a loser girlfriend. I'm not even going to ask you what love is cause I can guarantee you wouldn't even know. I"m being harsh on you, but with so many beautiful and smart women out there, there is no reason for you to be acting like you are. Dump this girl, and make it a mission to go out there and meet others. Oh yea, just get rid of that loser attitude, so that you can attract some strong women.

You need to just dump her and move on. Even though you say you love her, she is being unfaithful to you with the online guy, and would even leave you for him. Its only a matter of time till this happens, if you stay with her. This relationship can never be what you want it to be. As painful as it feels right now, you have to move on. Being alone is better than someone treating you as badly as this girl has.