My boyfriend says he WON'T get mad at me if I said that I couldn't have sex with him (it would be my 1st time) on his birthday which I (it was my decision he had nothing to do with it) promised to do. He said I can tell him to stop before or during. I think that he will be mad at me because I can't make up my mind about if I want to or not. So guys would you be mad if your girl promised that she would give it up and then when the time came she said she couldn't when she had said plenty of times the she was ready? Would it matter if it was before or during?
UltraDramatic
(Age:30 to 35)
When: More than a year ago
While I partially agree with the two ladies who have already answered, I've got to say that you shouldn't dangle something sexual in front of any man if you're not sure you want to do it. If you're not in that place and you're not ready, tell him NOW. Make sure he has no expectations, because he's only looking for what he can get out of it. He's acting selfishly -- birthday? Who cares? This is your fidelity we're talking about. Do you really want to give up your virginity if you're unsure about it? Think about the man you will eventually marry . . . is it this guy? I'm thinking it's not.
Alright I know that this question was directed towards guys but my best advice to you hun is if you're not 100% sure that you want to do it with him, wait. If he gets mad, then that means he doesn't respect you or your body. You can't get your virginity back once you lose it. It is a precious thing that YOU decide for yourself because YOUR ready and YOU feel the person you're with loves you and respects you and DESERVES to take that special part of you. I was 14 when I lost mine and I was with him for 3 years and you know what? I'm 22 now and TO THIS DAY I regret giving it up to him. I wasn't 100% sure and he said his friends were making fun of him so he pressured me into it. If he gets mad, he's not worth a second of your time, let alone the right to share in one of the most precious moments of your life. Choose wisely and good luck.
If he talked to you about it, then it means he understands. If you are not ready, that's a different thing. It seems to me that you guys are really close, but don't give yourself out if you are not ready. It will happen when the time is right.
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