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Should I hold back a little?

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NotSoBad (Age:25 to 29)     When: 6 months ago
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I'm the type of guy who always calls or texts to say "good morning" or "good night",
Over time I begin to get confused and think I'm the one who is doing all the caring in the relationship. I've thought about just not calling one day just to see if I receive a call but, then I feel like I'm doing something wrong. Is it wrong to hold back a little? Or should I hold back a little?

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Men2008 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 6 months ago
No you shouldn't hold back I have a friend that calls me text me every morning at 7 before he goes to work and tells me good morning and I love how sweet he is and there has been times that I did not text him back because I would be to busy and he never stopped. So don't stop being you I know she loves it. Discuss the matter to her and see where she stands on the matter because she could be not use to a guy like you and just soaking it all in.
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flowerbeauty21 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 6 months ago
No Way! Do not hold back. I would love it if a guy would call me just to say good night, good morning, just calling to say hi etc. You get the point. You're doing good. And if you're girlfriend doesn't appreciate it, well then she doesn't deserve you!
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springdragonfly (Age:18 to 24)      When: 6 months ago
Seems like its really nice that you call her, and she probably doesn't call you because she's just gotten into the habit of you doing this. It doesn't mean she doesn't appreciate it. However, I don't think calling is the only way to show you care about someone. She might be busy showing you some other way. So I think you need to consider her behavior in general, not only on this one point if you want to keep tabs. If the calling thing still gets to you, you can always not call one day, but she might think your feelings for her have changed or might panic rather than realizing you want her to call you. Instead, when you know she's going out with friends one night or has other plans or might sleep in late, maybe ask her if she'd mind calling you so you don't interrupt her. Try this a few times and maybe make it obvious that you are pleasantly surprised you are to hear her voice when she does initiate. She might just be a bit shy or taking you for granted and maybe making her effort in calling obviously appreciated will encourage her to do it more often (you can even hint at/suggest this one of the times you do get her to call). If she doesn't get it, you can always talk to her about it more directly, but even doing that might not make her want to initiate these daily calls. Not because she doesn't care about you, just because there might be other things she'd rather do to show her interest.
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joslynlove (Age:18 to 24)      When: 6 months ago
No you shouldn't hold back because if you do your not showing the other person who you really are I think we need more guys to show there real felling about there other person and you should one day not call and she how she takes it and if she call you and acted like she was worried then you now that she cares about you and you should keep her around as long as you can and maybe forever. I HOPE THAT I COULD BE A HELP?
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Anonymous User (Age:18 to 24)      When: 6 months ago
Don't hold back, that is the worst thing you can do. If it were me, I'd immediately assume your feelings towards me have changed and that maybe there's someone else who has sparked your interest and maybe now it's HER you're calling. We girls do tend to jump to conclusions asap and some of us even lose sleep over it. Do you really want to give your girl dark eye circles for losing sleep over something so trivial as this? In my case (I won't speak for all girls) I'm used to getting called so I don't call the guy. It doesn't mean I don't care about him, it means that I'm of the mind set that the guy usually should be the one to call, to make the approach mostly because I hate seeming clingy or needy, so I don't know if he's busy or with his friends when I call and I don't want to become that kind of girl. I will call him if it's a special occasion like for example his bday or whatever or if we have plans and there's something I need to know beforehand and can't wait for him to call first. But we love getting called, it makes it clear that we mean something to you and makes us feel special. If you abruptly stop doing it, she'll feel like crap, like she means nothing to you and that things have changed.
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Question Asker I understand what you are saying but I think that is a little more extreme of a situation than what I'm talking about. I just always feel like I'm doing the calling. So every once in awhile I would like to be pursued. - 6 months ago

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ashley23 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 6 months ago
Holding back a little probably wouldn't be a bad idea. But be warned that some women immediately jump to conclusions when any aspect of their boyfriend's behavior changes, you don't want to end up in the "you never call me just to say good morning anymore" fight. Just try it one day and see if your girl calls you instead is really the only thing I can think of, but on another note it doesn't sound like you're overbearing just a nice guy.
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Question Asker EXACTLY! That is sooo true! I've tried to hold back before and out of no where its like "Why are you acting differently!? " - 6 months ago
im1badmf Haha yeah man BE YOURSELF! AND be honest, ask her straight out; how come you don't call me? She'll get the idea. - 6 months ago
 

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