Can I forgive my cheating girlfriend?

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This is difficult but I will answer as good as I can without knowing the girl, first I will give you a little background as to why I found this thread as I was searching for answers to my own questions :(
Me and my ex were together for a year and a half, it was so intense, probably too intense, that he was pretty much my whole life and when I went thru my parents split I became totally dependent on him. We were due to be going to separate Universities, I had considered forfeiting my place at a top uni to go to his; the thought of not seeing him everyday had me crying everyday (stupid when I look back). Anyway, the week he left for university I was a total mess and made the biggest mistake of my life by letting something happen with a close friend of mine (not sex). Anyway, I told him which was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life because I knew id lose the best thing id ever had in my life.
10months on and I still can't get over my guilt. I would do anything to show him how sorry I am, that I cry a lot of nights with the sheer hate of how I could do something so terrible.

Long story short, everybody is human. All my life I could not have been more against anyone who cheated. My dad had 6 years of affairs and it ripped my family to shreds.
What you have to decide is whether what she did was genuinely a mistake and she regrets it with her whole heart, or whether the fact that she's done this in the past as well means that she doesn't see it as such a big deal sort of thing and thinks its an ok way to treat people; its not

In my opinion, you should break up with her a your initial reaction, if you don't do this she won't realize how much she has hurt you. But then wait and see her reaction. What she does to show you how sorry she is. This will show if she's really sorry.

If you really care about her, and she really makes you happy, why should you give up your happiness with her because of a mistake that she made? if that makes sense

If you can find it in your heart to forgive her then I think you are a fantastic man and full of love. But be careful with your own feelings, you don't deserve to get hurt.

In my opinion the test of a relationship is not how good you are when everything's good, but how you get through the hard times. If you think your relationship is strong enough and you truly believe she is sorry then if you tried to forgive her and it worked and things were good again, you know your relationship is worth it.

If she ever does it again forget her.

Let me know if this helps, I must sound like an awful person. I'm not, I hate myself for my mistake and still would do anything to show how sorry I am :( Everybody makes mistakes but the mistake is not to learn from them.

Good luck, you sound a good guy and I hope things work out and that if you choose to forgive her that she is worthy of it

well,cheating because of the alcohol is the lamest excuse.
were you born yesterday?
now this entitles you to 2-things
the 1st is to forget it and give her another chance.
and yes she'll cheat again once a cheater always a cheater.
try and find out why she cheated it's usually due to some problem.
mostly bordome in the bedroom

now you can cheat on her,and if she has a problem with it.
hold it over her head that she cheated on you.
and you can try for that 3-way f/f/m

in conclusion grow a back bone.
anyone that cheats is guaranteed to be released
if they love you that much there's no place for cheating
only except is a relationship in which you are swingers

Don't forgive her; don't take her back. She is a repeat offender and will not stop. Also even more important is your safety. If she will have a one night stand with a stranger while she's drunk, I can bet that protection is not on her mind. She will do this again and chances are that she will eventually get an STD.

Even worse, this type of behavior is what transmits HIV. Please, be aware of your safety!

I don't think she was being truthful when she said you were the first person she's told. I think she just wants a bizarre form a permission so that when she cheats in the future, she knows she still has you around as the backup plan.

You could ask her to give up drinking if she can't control herself when she's drunk, but the trust that's been broken can never really be 100% again. If you really care for her, try to work things out by seeing a couples counselor. That's probably the only way.

If she has cheated before, and admits it, what makes you think she will stop now? She obviously has a problem with fidelity. The fact that she told you about it, makes no difference. Besides, how does that make her any more trustworthy? That's just admitting you have a problem!

Wow, first off, I'm truly sorry that she did this. And obviously the fact that she was honest to you is a good thing. But the fact that she has cheated on many guys is definitely an issue. Also the fact that you've only been together for 3 months and she's cheated on you already. What happens later on when things kind of plateau out, and the sex and everything isn't as great?

The fact that she was drunk doesn't mean anything either. You still know what you're doing when you're drunk. You won't do anything when you're drunk that you haven't already thought about or whatever.

I really don't see how you could trust a girl that has cheated on other guys as well as yourself. Trust is one of those things that is 100% or nothing. You can't trust someone 80% because then it's not really trust.

You deserve better then a girl like this. Even if she is good in everything else. No one deserves to get cheated on.