Why is it that once I have formed a really close connection with my boyfriend, he pushes away and withdrawals? Seems to happen when things are going great between us. And the connection is going strong. Is it me or is it him or are guys just like this. We have been dating for years and have had some ups and downs but never anything like this. I trust him completely and know I am the only one in his life I don't feel insecure are the need to worry about another female. Just want to know what is going on with him and what if anything I can do or say to make him stop pushing away and withdrawing. When we are so close in connection.
What is the first thing you felt when you read the sentence above? If it was fear or anger, I think you suspect that there is either someone else in his life, or he wants there to be.
If you felt your heart sink, or sudden disappointment - you might just be deeply in love with this guy, and your expression of it is overwhelming him.
What you should do in either case is start using your acting abilities - and give him a dose of his own medicine. Act distant, withdraw, push him away a bit, miss a couple calls, skip a date, etc. This is guaranteed to do wonders for you in making him truly display his affection.
Aww hon, I think that he just has commitment issues. I'm sure its nothing you did, I think he's just afraid of getting too close to anyone because he's afraid of getting hurt. I'm the exact same way, it sucks, but it doesn't mean that he doesn't care about you or love you because I'm sure he does but he just needs time to get over his fears of being close to someone and when he does things will be so great between you guys. Don't give up on him. Good luck girl!
What were his past relationships like? If they were bad, then this could be why when you get close he backs off, I would say cheating but it would be more then just backing off. Try talking to him about it. - 7 months ago
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 9 months ago
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