My friend and my boyfriend, should I move on?

You don't say how deep your feelings for him were/are, and how deep his feelings were for you, as expressed. From the fact that you broke off your existing relationship says that your feelings for him were stronger than your feelings for your boyfriend.

Think about a relationship in terms of potentials, like the positive and negative of a battery. It's important to look at what you do and say in terms of whether it is going to be Positive, or Negative, and HOW Positive or Negative. If something you do, or say, has a HUGE potential (charge, so to speak), you can easily swamp, or overload the other person. Keeping a balance is essential!. If you take too much energy, without giving back, you become an energy vampire, and a partner will draw away. In this case, you sent him a surge of emotional energy, he couldn't handle.

While your intent in telling him about breaking off your relationship (in favor of being with him), and in revealing the details of your intimate relations, was to show your honesty, and demonstrate your truthfulness and integrity, (and it DOES), laying it on him all at once overloaded him. He was feeling positive and eager toward you already. Adding so much 'intensity', or "positive charge" if you will, made him instinctively step away. How long would you keep your hand on a hot stove?

If you truly feel strongly that this guy is for you, and you would like to pursue the relationship, then I would suggest that you think carefully about what you know of him, and come up with a couple of things you would both like to do, that are both possible (in terms of time and distance), and are neutral in terms of potential intimacy, and them IM him and say hey, I've been missing talking to you. I've been wanting to do. (this). , and I know you'd enjoy it. I've got time free. (here) or (here). Lets get together.

If you take care to choose suggested activities that would allow for good conversation, without overtones of (heavy date), you'll have the effect of 'drawing off' some of that overload you fed him (lol). Given that he's not completely 'shorted out', OR that he has simply decided NO, an approach like that gives him the chance to feel more comfortable, and once you and he are together, and can talk, you have further opportunity to get things 'back in balance' so to speak.

I know that it's hard to take that step, because you are afraid you may find out he's not going to talk at all, and has rejected you. While that is painful, better to take action now, and find out, than to wait. As you are the person who 'overloaded' the circuits (so to speak), you can't count that he'll EVER chance getting 'zapped' again, and initiate contact on his own. It's up to YOU to take the first step toward restoring that essential balance.