I really would have more confidence if I was a "hot" guy.

Another skinny little kid crying about his trouble gaining weight. Man, I'm 5'8" and plus or minus 200 lbs. I envy skinny guys, short guys, tall guys, ripped guys, and darn near everyone else who's different than me. The point is, there's ALWAYS going to be something girls like about another guy that you don't have. However, there's ALWAYS going to be something a girl likes about you that another guy doesn't have. Just GET OVER yourself and make the best of who you are.

You are only as small as you feel. If you feel small, your body language communicates that you feel that way and people are going to overlook you as opposed to someone who is more confident, no matter how attractive they are.

You don't have to be anyone but you, just be a bit more confident and charismatic and you'll be fine. We couuld use more nice guys out there like you! Once you attract someone sweet and worth your time, please please please show her how she should be treated. My gender thanks you.

I say stop worrying about the impression you give and just be yourself.
Love Life! It's too short to worry about impressing the opposite sex. If the girl doesn't like you for who you are then what is the point of the relationship? there really isn't any point in being fake just so someone will date you.

No,you don't have to be another hott guy.We don't always look for just that in a relationship.

Just be yourself and someone will come along.

That's great your strong but that doesn't make a relationship happen or last.Relationships,well actual relationships take a lot of work,so honestly who cares whether your strong or not?
If you want a real relationship,stop obsessing about being buff to attract girls and realize that you just need to to be yourself.We don't want some pompous,fake jerk for a boyfriend.

just because your working out and starting to get muscles doesn't mean that your going to get hit on by more girls. confidence is one of the main factors in a girls decision about guys. confidence means that you believe in yourself and many girls find that very attractive. but confidence is not to be confused with overconfidence. guys that are conceited actually turn girls off a lot. but if you know how to treat a girl and you're not a jerk, then you are well on your way to becoming a guy that will have a relationship or many relationships before senior year is over. just relax and flirt a little.

Be the best you I know everyone struggles with an aspect about ourselves. If you can change it in a healthy way go for it but don't let it control your life. You'll probably get bigger naturally as you get older and work out in a healthy way. As far as relationships hoo hoo hoo lol they'll be girls waiting lol probably there now.

Don't put your life on hold waiting to achieve some sort of physical goal that you think will give you confidence. Have you ever met a total jerk who reeks of confidence and you cannot figure out why because they are not particularly good looking or in shape? Now, granted, it may be false bravado masking their insecurities, but for some I think they are sincerely very confident. Also, there are many guys and gals who are confident, they are not jerks and they are not perfect.

Rock who you are. Keep up any goals you have but love who you are now. Confidence is a huge key in getting the girl or the guy and it is actually created quite separately from being the perfect physical specimen.

confidence is more attractive then a hot body...if they like you they already think your hot

Confidence is hotter than a hot body. A body is good, but it's all about how you shine through. My recent ex is only 117lbs he is 5' 7''. He's just a skinny ass, but he is so confident. He once played naked horse and walked around naked, and he has a small dick.. But man he was so hot because he really DIDN'T care what anyone thought. He would joke and poke at anyone for anything. You couldn't insult this guy. He would agree if it were true or state his objection if it wasn't. He knew what he had and was comfortable with himself. He was great in bed, small dick and all.

working out is great. Girls like a guy with a good build and who looks like he takes care of himself. Plus it does make you feel more confident and healthier. You can have a relationship with girls at your size or any size. But there are lots of girls who are also petite who would love a guy who doesn't make them feel tiny. And you really only need one nice girl to notice you. Don't just wait for the one that notices you first. Look around for a girl you like and get to know her and then ask her out on an actual date. Most guys talk a lot but never ask the girls on a date. Start there. They will know right away you are different from the other guys.

yup act confident not like cocky...
but just stop worrying about it.

and you want muscles?
personally I've dated all types and I'm dating a football and track and field start sr now and he's the hottest I've ever dated...BUT he hits the 6 days a week and drinks protien shakes, and takes creatine. and he goes for hours at a time.

and it pays the fuuuuck of he's hot (:

so just keep ur chin up nd dressing nice isn't gunna hurt either!

One of by best friends has the same problem. My advice to him was, even if you don't feel confidant. Act like it. Girls love confidance, and it makes it so much easier. Don't think to hard about, just do it. That's mainly the reason girls like jerks, it's because their confidant, overly so, but still. Eventually you'll pretend to be confidant so long you will actually feel confidant.

Its great you are looking after your appearance as long as your doing it first and formost for yourself.

I do weights and watch what I eat but that's because I want to be as healthy and fit as I can stand to work on. :D

Of course it helps in the girl department but confused4now is spot on, girls like all sorts, as long as you show you care about your appearance and it boosts your confidence, keep it up. :)

So many girls are taller then me but it doesn't phase me. Don't let it phase you.

If a female is judging you on your body then she is completely in th wrong, it the mind and personaility that matters, the heart in a non physical state of mind. Who cares if your hot? Your a man, females (not to be rude with this term) might call you cute, hansom, good looking, you don't have to be hot. I'm 6ft 134lbs. Sure you can see my ribs slightly - I'm not worked out anymore (injured in the service) but I had a wife, she didn't love me for how I looked, it was the connection with her, our hearts. The body should not enter into this. You need to be proud for who you are, no one can take that from you. Keep well and be pround :)

Confidence makes you hot. Not the other way around.

Google "pickup beautiful women" and you'll learn quickly that most of the world's greatest "seducers" of women are small ugly little men. But these are men who didn't waste time lifting weights, because they quickly learned that women arn't as superficial as you'd think.

Women respond to Personal Power, not a guy's Bench Press.

If you're expressing your energy as a weak little man, then she's only going to avoid you.

If you express yourself as a confident, fun, "high status" assertive male (google all of those terms) then you will have NO trouble meeting any girl you want.

My nephew is 16, and has had terrible acne since he was 13. I know it sucks because I had acne too growing up.

I blamed my acne for my lack of success with women, but the reality was that it was my lack of personal power that made the women avoid me.

But my nephew has women all over him. All of his Facebook friends are his hot girlfriends. He rules his school.

Why? Because he doesn't care about his looks, he trusts himself, always has something interesting to say, and seems to have a big heart.

Women want a man who makes her FEEL. This doesn't mean manipulating her with gifts or compliments. It means bringing yourself as a vulnerable but REAL man who loves himself, and loves his friends.

Do your homework, and read some books on women and dating and you'll turn around you luck with women in less than 2 weeks.

I promise!

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Its True That Girls Do Like Confidence, But Not All Girls Like Muscle, Its Good To Be Small With Maybe Some Definition? Sort Of a Happy Medium, I Myself Have Very Little Confidence But You Can Stil Get Through Alright, If I Can Manage It Anyone Can lol

Go to this website these guys are paid to teach any guy no matter what he looks like to find the girls you want artofcharm.com. Women put very little stock in looks. Confidence and presents of mind is what women go for. Just check out all the free stuff on that website it will help I promise.

This may not be the best advice but I know that this has to hold some kind of truth for you to gain from but bottom line is that you have to get yourself out there and experience as much as possible because highschool comes and goes, your senior year comes and goes, and even your childhood comes and goes and then, before you know it, you will be looking back saying you should've, would've, could've. For me, life is about living and learning and you can not experience life without trial and error. There is nothing wrong with working out but that is not the only way for you to gain confidence. Keep doing it if it is really helping though. I have a younger brother who is also a senior and we have had these kinds of talks about stuff like this, because he use to have the same issues and now he is doing pretty good with himself on this kind of. In any case I hope this helped a little. I think you will do fine.

Dude, if yo're going to say being hot would make you more confident, you're holding yourself back. You need to not look on your apierence so much, whel comb your hair and wear clean clothes,but no, if yor a good guy and if you step up to the plate, girls will see you. If yo stay in the side lines, you'll never get noticed and your seniour year will be spent lifting wieghts. So yea get out there. Tell m about my advice.