So my legs are great, I have big boobs, my bum is lovely smooth and perk with no cellulite but I have a bit of a tummy. I am a confident women but I do get a little paranoid with my body image. I exercise lots, look good and take care of myself, dress great. I guess I just wonder if its the tummy/not having a perfect body is the reason I don't get hit on?
Update: I have added a couple of pics. I do exercise alot, NY Body Plan, Gym, Swimming etc - but as you get older it get harder, also I think part of your shape is just how you will always be & perhaps I just need to accept my body but workout for health instead
4 months ago
speaking as a man, and a horny single one at that.let me say this: I have encountered a lot of attractive women in my day, some I even had crushes on. but the sad truth isbut what drove me away was their attitude! it doest matter if you have the hottest body around, a bitch will be a bitch! trust me, if your heart is in the right place, "the men will come!"
Honestly the fact that you obsess over it so much would put me off more than any physical imperfections you might have. I definitely feel more comfortable approaching girls who are far from perfect than girls who are supermodel-ish.
Guys can't all agree on what looks good in a girl, but one thing we can all agree on is that we don't want someone who obsesses over it like you are. It makes you seem high maintenance and superficial, both of which are qualities that are the kiss of death for any guy. I'm sure you're a nice person and all but until you get over it and accept yourself the way you are you're going to put guys off because you're going to give them the wrong impression about yourself. - 4 months ago
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I don't obsesses about it I just asked a question as was curious like most women I am a little conscious about my figure but certainly do not obsess, in fact as I stated am only conscious about one part of my body so that was a bit harsh but thanks anyway. - 4 months ago
dont worry about legs, hips and your ass.that shit's irrelevant. focus on personality. I lived in germany for 5 years when I was in the army and I understand why you don't like british men. I can't stand how all british men are so brave after a few drinks and so proper without them. I get a laugh out of that shit. anyways. What matters is you. What you want out of life and how you plan to get it. I already told you before, if that is a real picture of you, then stop wasting your time in jolly ol england. I've been to london and it was yuck! pack up and head to Florida. I'm sure you will have no problem here finding a man in no time! imperfection is what makes thing beautiful. "The perfect woman or man was an expression created by the shallow and vain to blanket their fears of ievitable physical decay by demanding unrealisitic expectations upon others to spite their own insecurity." - Johnny (me). I'd rather die alone than live with someone who expects me to deny graceful aging, gravity, and living a lofe of joy by worrying about how fit I stay. Remeber.focus on the heart, the rest is just tabloid filled f***ing rubbish! I think that's a pretty good british word. I hope I used it correctly. - j
first of all no girl has the perfect body. you should be happy with yourself sweety don't worry about what other guys may think. there is also something better then great legs, big boobs and a lovely bum. a fantastic personality < that can get you any guy. I checked out your pic and the only reason why you don't get hit on a lot is because you intimidate guys. they look @ you and say: she's way out of my league, ill never have a chance! =o* take care!
Guts are only turnoffs in my opinion if they are way too large. A little gut on a girl in my opinion is cute. I don't like girls that are really skinny. And she said she excersizes lots, not works out lots... - 4 months ago
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Did you look at my age, slightly different than someone your age hun - 4 months ago
I'm in great physical shape and honestly, a women who is a little thick is awesome who wants a skinny bitch with a rib cage sticking out that looks like a starving dog. f*** that. skinny bony starving girls ain't shit! And if you care about a gut on a woman, then your a shllow idiot! lol I bet when your 45, a gut will be the least of your worries. - 4 months ago
They dont, but if their attitude is good and they look really 'perfect' than it helps. Image however does effect some peoples first impression of you.
I saw this very very fine girl on the bus yesterday while with a friend. I would of talked to her but she was loud and very rude when talking to her friend. (rude as in bad subjects for in public, ect.) That completely drove me away.
No, at least not in my opinion. Up until school ended this year, I was going out with probably my favorite girls of all the ones I've dated. She had good legs, boobs, and a pretty face, but was a little bit chubby. Unfortunately she moved states away.:( I never realized that she was chubby until my friends said something. She, in my mind was perfect the way she was. Her face was so beautiful.God I miss her so much.
The point? If the guy really likes the girl, she is pretty and sexy and everything no matter what.
I would just like to build upon this because she mean't so much to me. She was the prettiest thing in the world to me. I loved spending time with her. She didn't sit and ask me if I thought she was fat. She didn't obsess over anything.She just lived life. So I hope this helps. To be honest, it has helped me out because she thought it would be best to just stop talking to ease the pain or something when she moved - 4 months ago
If a man truly loves the girl then she automatically has the perfect body. If love is in the air then the emotional attachment consumes him and he can't think about any other girl. His one love is the sexiest girl on the planet to him.
Agree with JayBird. You may have some great physical attributes but you need to follow it up with the perfect confidence.
So you've got a bit of a "tummy," no biggie unless people confuse you for a pregnant woman. We pick up on the confidence factor just as much as women so be more confident as otherwise you'll attract the wrong kind of men. The ones who'll prey on your insecurity to bed you and then leave you feeling more insecure than when you started.
No to be completely heartless here, but I'm almost disappointed that you are asking this. I'd expect someone under 18 to be THIS concerned with appearance. At the same time, maybe this shows how out of touch I am with aesthetics.
I'd imagine that you get hit on, but not by the guys you want to hit on you. Not to mention, this phrase "perfect body" should not even exist. Of course magazines and gyms need people to believe in this imaginary concept so they can increase their bottom line. The phrase "perfect body" was conjured up out of thin air.
You could try something new Ms. Confident woman: its 2008, hit on the guys you want attention from.
You are right, the term Perfect Body should not exist, unfortunately there is a lot of media pressure on girls (and guys) to diet, to look a certain way, dress a certain way to insinuate that only then will we be considered successful and beautiful - but even then (like the celebs) the media still not happy & you hear she's too fat, too thin, too short, got cellulite, got saggy skin, bingo wings, pudgy tummy etc etc etc. I am confident, but am human even I worry at times too. - 4 months ago
A guy who loves you, should find you to be his "perfect women" body and all. Everyone has something they don't like about themselves, its about accepting yourself. Maybe you are over analyzing yourself, just relax, and emphasize on your good parts rather then the "not so good ones".
Guys do hate tummies. I don't think they even notice thighs, which we obsess about, but tummies they do notice. So if you really do have one and this isn't you overly worrying, I would suggest doing something about it. Working out, liposuction, whatever, just make it go away.
Why should she have to dedicate the better part of the next few months to "please men?" That's absurd! She should be focused on work or other activities that give her confidence. It's women like you that drag others down. "Guys do hate tummies."--- I guess you know from personal experience?!?!?! - 4 months ago
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I get what you are saying, but I think it does give a person confidence when they think they look good. And yeah, my weight isn't always the same and I can tell my boyfriend likes my body more when it's a bit lower. I don't see anything wrong with that. I like his body better when his weight is lower too. - 4 months ago
Doesn't confidence only go so far? I'm sure the poster is fine, she doesn't sound bad; but if you don't look good then you would need to work on that to attract a guy. If you are like really heavy, being confident is not going to change the fact you are big. - 4 months ago
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I'm gonna put up a picture, this could be funny! - 4 months ago
sometimes being paranoid of yourself can take away some of your looks. If you feel or think your ugly, others will too. The best thing to do is just enjoy the life God gave you and not to worry so much on your outer appearance but your inner appearance because that's more important. Also, if you aren't confident with your looks it will show in you inner appearance more, so if you gain a little more confidence in yourself, then others will see this and more guys will be attracted to you.
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