I'm a tomboy I'll say it till the cows come home. And apparently I'm an emo kid too but that's a different story. I love sports I watch the games on tv I like actually playing them too. I like skirts but I'm a bit self conscience about wearing them because I'm a bit muscular around my calves and thighs. So I just wear jeans or capris a lot. I've got guy friends and I somehow get more all the time((i have female friends too just not as much)) but with all these guys, I have never had a dar, or asked out, or told someone likes me. Is bring a tomboy preventing that?
you are positioning yourself as "One of the guys". I am sure they absolutly adore you but are really scared of insulting you and losing you as a freind. If you are athletic I am, sure you have an awesome shape that gets a lot of looks but no one will dare tell you. Guys don't mind being soft and cuddly with women (they feel it is alright to let guard down with a lady) but with tomboy's they don't dare letting that part show, cause.you are one of the boys and you will taunt them because you think it is the funniest thing you ever seen.
Cmon, you are one of the boys and your going to do what guys do the best.taunt thier freinds and pick on them mercilessly.lol. what's a freind for? you love em but your no going to let them get away with doing something you consider "something to make fun of"
I am sure you are a good person BUT The ironic thing is I bet the other ladies think you are sleeping around alot.
Just my 2cents. Hope you got something out of my ramblings.
It sounds like you are probably really intimidating to guys. Not only that, but a lot of your guy friends probably won't ask you out since you are friends! I would say just be who you are, because if you try to change to get a boyfriend, you won't be happy, and it will just cause problems. Stay true to yourself, and you will find someone who likes you for you. Also, your info says you are 16, and although it might feel like you should have a boyfriend and stuff by now, that's really not that old. I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 18!
Its not like I look like a guy I just have thief common interest and just don't wear skirts - 4 months ago
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I know... that's what I mean .. guys like how girls act though... they want to know what they think like and stuff.. if you act like a guy (same intrests) then it won't be like a relation ship but more like best friends. - 4 months ago
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Hmm well I guess I can use my girl side wouldn't kill me just gonna be a bit difficult - 4 months ago
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Youll get used to it. its all in your head:) people choose what they want to like.
like if you start hangin out with only guys then you might start acting more tomboyish. so try hanging out with a bunch of girls to bring out the good stuff in you.
good luck - 4 months ago
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Okay thank you :) you are fantastic :D - 4 months ago
being a tomboy is not a bad thing. I mean, you can be a tomboy but still have lady-like qualities. things that turn guys off, a girl who spits, a girl who burps, a girl who says "imma take a crap, be right back'(I heard this hot girl say that and I totally lost every ounce of interest in her) or anything that is not so lady-like. so, if you were doing those things, I think you should stop, and as for being sporty and wanting to play rough, there is nothing wrong with that. lol maybe they will think if they asked you out, you would be very blunt and say hell no. so maybe they could be somewhat intimidated by a strong (not strong as in strength) girl.
LOL I guarantee I don't do those things I find that mortifying
But that's not fair I'm not blunt :-/ LOL - 4 months ago
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Guys find girls intimidated period ended... now, when you got a girl who is a tomboy, guys find that very intimidating.. if you guys do go out to the movies, I bet if you do dress up girlie, they may make jokes cause 'your one of the guys' but they will see the more attractive side of you, and one of them may start to open up to you - 4 months ago
Actually, I spit ALL the time and I've never turned a guy off by it. And my best friend is a massive burper and I've heard some of the hottest guys say that it's hot that she burps like a man. - 4 months ago
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Hey everyone got their turn ons.. that I do agree - 4 months ago
I'm a girly guy, I like to play with dolls, paint my toe nails and share my feelings but I also wear baggy clothes and lift weights. Why don't girls like me?
You see what I'm trying to parallel? Guys don't generally like tomboys because you have the essence of a guy which includes the farting and gross humor that comes along with males. If we wanted that, we'd just be gay.
You can be whomever you want but just remember that the reason we like you girls is for your feminine qualities that aren't associated with our scent.
Watch the football games but try cutting back on cussing like a sailor.
Well I don't go that deep into tomboy but um I get it but I do have a girl side I'm only human, so what your telling me is I can't be myself... But I can't be fake its impossible. So its not much help - 4 months ago
I don't agree with that-guy, I am far from gay and I dated a tomgirl, she was captain of the lacrosse team, she wore a baseball hat backwards, liked going to the batting cages.. but had feminine qualities too, she was muscular too, and I found her being tomboyish sexy.. so, its up to the guy, but be yourself, you will find a guy who will love your qualities - 4 months ago
guys can be intimidated by girls who have a lot of guy friends and hang around guys a lot. seeing all that competition around can scare guys away.
on top of that I think guys are attracted to femininity and girlyness because it's different than themselves. they don't want to date a girl who is boyish.
your guy friends probably don't ask you out because they see you just as they see their other male friends. they wouldn't ask one of them out, now would they?
im a tomboy, as you can tell lol but I love basketball. ill play pbasketball beore ill eat. its tough in hs because everybody is confused, girls guys, about what is right, what is cool, blah blah blah. I didn't date till COLLEGE! I talked to guys, but it never got to dating. what I found out in college is that you have to be sure about yourself, be confident and true to you. when guys see that, then they will approach you. you could switch it up allittle, but you don't have to do a 180. good luck, I feel ya!
I'm a tomboy too, and I have a few other friends who are also tomboys, and while I've had problems in the dating world, but I do know some girls who haven't had problems finding boyfriends. I think it's all about the attitude you give off, the confidence in who you are that draws guys to you. I was 15 for my first date, but it never turned into a relationship, and by 21 I was in my first relationship. I found that flirting with guys was part of my problem, because I wasn't very good at it. Practice makes perfect, lol. Don't worry about it too much, it'll happen when it happens.
I'm not a guy, but I know where you are coming from. I have always been a tomboy, but a cross between "one of the guys" and a "girly girl." I've always been into my hair and nails. But I also hung out at the gym alot. I used to have super musclur legs, and really tone tummy (I lost a lot of that when I had my baby), and I've always, loved Action and Horror movies, and I'm really not into Chick Flicks. I love hockey and NASCAR, and I watch porn. Not a burper or farter but I do spit a lot.
I have never really had much trouble with guys, but part of the thing is that I've always kind of been inside the guys mind so I know the angles to approach them I guess. And also, I never really went for guys in my circle of guy friends. And, I was often the one that was the approacher, so that helped guys that maybe thought I was unapproachable because I was "one of the guys."
