I have been on the thick side for a couple of years now (because of being incapacitated by a nasty cold for like half a year.. and I was heavily active beforehand.. and I still am!) and I have realized that at this point in my life I'm getting more attention from guys than I ever have. What's up with that?
It goes against what I hear so many guys say!
Granted I have lost 14-15 pounds so far, but it is not like a stranger would notice.. because hell they are meeting you for the first time! I guess I would say I have gained the confidence to be myself around others and that I always feel that I dress nicely (I tend to dress semi-casually.. not always the way my age-group dresses), I am very active (love to walk, play volleyball, & trust me, I have a higher kick than your's LOL). But.. I feel like I was all that stuff before.. at least I think.. maybe I wasn't confident enough about it? Maybe no-one noticed my personality or whatever? It is not like my beauty or lack of beauty (whatever it falls into) has changed over time (no plastic surgery, hardly wear makeup and if I do it is very light, I generally wear the same type of clothes) the only thing that changed was my weight!
I just really want to know what it is I'm doing right so maybe I can do more of it! Or maybe other girls out there who are on the thicker side (like me) might be able to start utilizing their best and most attractive features and stop falling into that category of unwanted large girls =/! Because I freaking hate being in that category and even the very existence of it in the first place because NO-ONE deserves to EVER be put in such a category =/!! It is SO unfair to just not acknowledge someone because of their weight because you don't know why or how they gained it! For me and many others it was not laziness or an inattention to my health, it was extenuating circumstances that disrupted my healthy and active lifestyle =/!
But pfft I could rant for hours about that! But I won't bother you anymore with my opinions, because I am very interested in hearing yours!
This may seem as a surprise to you, but ask your question backwards, and you'll have your answer: Maybe it's that you're a "larger girl" that makes you attractive to some men.
For instance, me? Yes, I've had some size zero babes in my lap. And? Nope, that's not it. Me? I like my babes stacked and packed, you know, a woman with a nice swing on her back porch. I find a tall, thick lady RED hot. There's nothing sexier than a woman's healthy, sexy curves. WOW. Now, THAT's sexy. Little Miss size zero? You're just not it, Miss thang.
Maybe you were really happy after getting over your illness, and they were attracted to that. Sometimes what kills it for me with a larger girl is that she looks depressed or doesn't smile at all if we happen to cross paths. In fact, I know a particular women right now who I would for sure be committed too, and she isn't the society approved model at all.
I would say you got attention right after you felt better because you were happy, then you continued to be happy and outgoing because of the attention and it has just carried with you. Of course, you could be really good looking either way, hard to tell without seeing a picture.
You're confidence and not letting you're weight change who you are is a big part of it. You're not letting the fact you gain this weight stop you. You're staying motivated over letting it get you down and depress you. You're being yourself. You're living your life. That's hugely attractive when you are who you are and you have confidence. Weight isn't going to change who you are unless you let it. Your weight doesn't define you.
Yeah, a lot of what you hear makes it so that unless you're that perfect little mold the media tells you to be you aren't "good enough," "there's something wrong with you," or "guys/girls won't like you. " well it's a bunch of bologna. The only truth in it is that a lot of the people you find believe it so much it's stupid. There are guys out there, hidden by all the overbearing morons, who aren't buying into all the media.
You're also working to keep yourself healthy. When your weight and your height are a healthy combination you can guarantee that there will be guys out there who will like you.
Also, from a person who prefers the curvier women, you're really just more attractive when you aren't trying to fit into that little mold.
My mom's ex boyfriend found her so sexy, and mom couldn't understand it at all as she is about a size 26... for him she's a really woman, he doesn't like stick insects :) I admire curvier women too, women aren't supposed to be size zero's!! You're confidence probably does a lot for you too, if you have a positive way of thinking you will generate a positive vibe that everyone you meet will feel and will want to be around you to feel more of it... Put it this way, would a guy really want to date someone who moans and looks negatively on things??
I'm a girls who is on the (as you say lol the thicker side) and too be honest as long as you are your self people and men will notice you granted I have had more attention from older men than men my own age but they are more mature and a more curvaceous woman shows a physical maturity and men love that so just carry on with what your doing and be your self.
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