Tell me ladies, I am not gay, have a girlfriend and we have been dating for 3 years. I always take pride in the way I look no matter where I go. Normal outfit for myself is white undershirt nice dress shirt or sweater to go over is with some nice brown fade jeans (display pic for another ex. ).
But recently I was approached by this random chick and she asked me if I was gay. I took major offense to her comment and it got me to thinking. Did I bring that on myself by the way I was dressed and also do girls think that when a guy is dressed up it means he is gay? I am confused I thought girls liked to see a guy who takes care of themselves.
I don't think so, in fact, I prefer metrosexual men. I love men that take pride in their appearance and dress to impress. With a metrosexual man, it's like having a boyfriend who can be manly when they need to be and actually help you with shopping and decorating too. It's like the best of both worlds
To me I personally prefer the more rough looking guys but when I see a guy dressed up I don't just automatically presume that they are gay because some guys like to look all fresh and I don't see anything wrong with that everyone has their own personal style that how I look at it and as for that girl she was uncalled for what's it to her if are gay, maybe she has issues of her own
Lots of random people, especially insecure-in-their-masculinity guys and badly-dressed girls, might think you're gay. Don't let it bother you! And your girlfriend is lucky.
Funny you should say that, she was not nicely dressed at all - 6 months ago
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I kind of figured that part. Yeah, I wouldn't worry about it sweetie. Her opinion about my style wouldn't even matter especially since she has no sense of style her self. To hell with her. - 6 months ago
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(Age:30 to 35)
When: 6 months ago
No - metro sexual doesn't automatically meant gay. I believe It is actually termed for any man who are single, living in the city, with lots of money and totally vain especially in the way he looks. I believe a great number of women love metro sexual man. I'm one of them :)
Yeah, that random chick was definitely rude. Even if you were gay, that's none of her business and it was out of place for her to make that presumption. I feel I've got a pretty good gaydar and can tell the difference between metro and gay guys, and from your picture you are certainly not giving me any gay vibes.
I think that when a guy takes care of his appearance, that is a very classy and sexy thing. Admittedly, there are a lot more gay guys than straight guys who do this (proportionally speaking), so it's probable that some girls assume a guy who dresses nicely is gay. But they just haven't met the right straight guys!
Well that random chick is a rude bitch lol. I def don't think there is anything wrong with a straight guy dressing nice it just means you take care of your self I would think most girls would appreciate a guy who is well groomed. But some people will think you are gay because of the way you dress but you know you are not gay so screw em. I wouldn't worry about anything as long as your girl friend likes the way you are!
I get asked that shit all the time and I'm not gay . Now I laugh it off and tell them "Not everything is too good to be true," smile and ask for their number .
PSSH! KICK ROCKS! Dress however you want. I wear a dress shirt and tie almost every day. I wear sweaters all of the time and I make sure I'm clean. It doesn't make me gay. It makes me a man who takes pride in his appearance. What she said is nothing but an old societal stereotype of what a man "should" be. A real man isn't afraid to do what he wants to do.
If I have a mohawk, does that mean I listen to punk, rebellious, an attention whore and a juvenile delinquent?
Not necessarily but one shouldn't be surprised if some people judge you that way.
The girl who approached you was brave or comfortable enough to ask you something that many others have thought to themselves (as she is not the first to think this). I would've thanked her for pointing that out for me and changed my wardrobe accordingly as to not project the wrong message to fertile ready females.
So if you like dressing the way you do, more power to ya but don't get upset if people question your sexuality. In the end, if it's worth the mis-interpretation of what your clothes represent, then happy matching. If not. You may want to adjust you're style.
I had a mohawk and got tired of the perceived projection of my image, as cool as it was.
I ain't a lady, but metrosexual doesn't automatically mean gay. To assume that makes the observer presumptuous. To ask it outright like that girl is impolite.
Okay, now, it DOES however, give off a gay vibe more so than being a redneck, or jock, or businessman, or whatever other traditional straight guy motif you could have chosen. In external perception, there's pretty much nothing closer to gay for straight guys than metro. Because you like the same clothes as many gays, and likely get the same haircuts and maybe read the same magazines and so on. There's nothing about you that clarifies "behind closed doors I like the ladies. " so expect some wondering, the more GQ and pressure tanned and hair gel and single earring you go.
So, no it doesn't mean gay. Yes, it causes some to wonder if they don't know you well. No, you didn't "bring that on yourself" because the question seems rude and presumptuous. Yes, you do "bring that on yourself" in that you will cause some people to wonder, unless of course you alter your demeanor to be more the "James Bond metrosexual" who is well-dressed but always has the hot babe on his arm and exudes more manliness than any other guy in the room. Good luck with that, btw. But that's about the only way to pull off "metro minus gayness" and realistically, most of us cannot pull off "James Bond" at all. Finally, some girls love the metros, others love the cowboys, others love the bikers, others love the artists. You aren't gonna get them all with any one costume.
(Age:25 to 29)
When: 6 months ago
