Why is she acting so distant from me?
Ok there is this girl that I met in Japanese class. Also she is Japanese. I don't know if that means anything but I just figured I'd add it. Anyway we hung out about 5 weeks non stop and we talk all the time. Hanging out 10 hours a day, and she wants to be only friends. But yeah were hanging out all the time she playfully hit me and joked with me, made up a nick name. She even called me her best friend. Then all of a sudden something happened. I don't know where it changed exactly but basically we hung out for thanks giving, we were laying on my bed (I live in the dorms) and we were messing around drinking a little and she wrapped her legs around me jokingly telling me to say sorry. I did.
Then we had a few phone calls after that and then it got really bad. She wouldn't keep a conversation or look at me, then I got sick and she calls me all worried. I figured she still cared about me then but then it got even worse. Now we rarely talk, we didn't hang out for like 3 weeks and when we did hang out it was because we had made plans to go to a big concert over a month ago. Ok so we go to the concert and she acts distant and quiet, but then gives me a small Christmas gift. We get to the concert and she's distant, I have fun on my own and then she's messing with me again. (also after drinking) Playfully punching me, yanking my shirt, wrapping her right arm around my neck and jumping up and down with me. Next day she's back to not really holding a conversation or looking at me when I talk to her.
We hang out for New years eve, She invites me and I stand alone for a second and she calls me over, to join her. Then she goes and dances on her own. So I go and dance on my own. Then we go back to a friends house and she's drinking again and back to her old self. She's talking to me, playfully kicking me, laughing. I don't know if she acted like that around anyone else except for the other girl that's also from Japan like her but that's because they can relate on a cultural level. She says she doesn't want anything more then a friendship. So my question is why is she acting like this? Does she think I got to close to her? Dose she think I'm after her and trying to be more then just a friend? I'm a really nice person, I treat my friends and always offer a hand so maybe she thought that.
Maybe I said something wrong, or offensive. How do I tell? Maybe I said that I care about you and she freaked out about it. I don't know what I did wrong. HELP! I'm cool with being best friends unless she wants more or less but she's not telling me anything. I brought it up once that she was acting distant and she said it was her finals that were getting to her.
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