So, there's this guy i've been "talking" to for a few weeks. We just had casual conversations and he was telling me how he had been single for a while. Today, he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said "yes." I told my best friend that he and I are dating and then it circulated around the school. I was walking into the bathroom to fix my makeup before lunch, when this girl comes in and was like "Amber, why would you date someone else's boyfriend?" I was just like what? I was so confused. She explained to me how they have been together for 3 months and I told her that he told me he was single and I showed her the text messages. She said she wasn't mad at me or anything because I didn't know. During lunch, I usually chill in the courtyard with my circle and we just talk about random shit. That's when she came up to me and asked if I had talked to him today and I told her "no." *I honestly, have no idea if im quoting correctly..* She texted him and told him to meet her at the courtyard. He came up to us and she asked him to explain what was happening. He straight up told her that he didn't like her and that she was annoying and fake or whatever. He said, "it is what it is" and then just told me to text him and walked off. I almost cursed his ass out, because she started crying and I feel SOOO bad. I understand, I didn't know they were together but I don't know I still feel bad.. What do you think? Can you give me some advice too? No, I am not speaking to him either..
Should I apologize to her?
- YessVote A
- Sort OfVote B
- Not ReallyVote C
Most Helpful Guy
You don't need to apologize, you didn't do anything wrong. Though it would be nice to offer some empathetic support. What the guy did was shitty. It's pretty clear that he was waiting to find a replacement girl before dumping her, so he has been using her for who knows how long knowing that he didn't really like her and just keeping her around for physical reasons while he shopped for an upgrade. That's so shitty.
And anything he does to another girl to get with you is something that he will be willing to do TO you when he finds another girl he likes more. Not speaking to him is the wisest move. This guy clearly only thinks about himself. And that's not what you want in a partner.1
Most Helpful Girl
Why would you apologize? You did not a damn thing wrong. HE is the one who cheated, you have no obligation to her. Now, if you had known they were together then it would have "sort of" been your fault but it still all goes back to him. I admire that you stopped speaking to him and feel sorry for the girl. Many women would just shrug their shoulders, continue dating the dude, and throw a fit when the same happens to them.0