Most Helpful Girl
I think overall the laws are pretty fair. Depends on the state you live in, of course, but there's a mathematical formula for support and alimony.
How an individual judge will rule on disputed matters is up to them, however.
The best thing is to be able to come to an agreement between yourselves. That's what my ex and I did. Basically we just paid the minimum fees to draw up and file the papers, and had a brief hearing to finalize it. I realize that isn't always possible, but it's the fairest and cheapest. I feel really sorry for people whose spouses drag them through a long, expensive, emotional battle.3
Most Helpful Guy
Of course not. Even in a perfect scenario where assets where divided and agreed by the woman 50/50, women are typically awarded custody of the child/children since social values suggest the children are "best situated" alongside their mothers and father figures aren't "necessary". A the same time, women would need to work a part time job or simply work less hours to take care of the child. Guess who has to pay alimony? People often miss that child custody responsibility is a privilege, not a burden.
Women don't realize this, but a woman's financial stability post-divorce decreases over time and this is an statistical fact. So even if men are the real losers in this game, it seems work choices, money spending choices and raising a kid (despite receiving alimony from the father) still affects women in a long run.
But then again what can be fair in a system where there are more than a hundred laws protecting women on divorce (no wonder why women initiate 70% of divorces) and 0 men. Divorce rate skyrocketed ever since the "no fault" divorce passed in 1969, and it's only going up in modern day. Women initiate more divorces and break ups and then people wonder why men have a really hard time to commit.
This will still be a recurring issue until they actually change the fucking laws which seems to be in no foreseeable future.8