I gave him everything he wanted, even if i felt uncomfortable at first. I changed myself to be the girl he wanted. He said i should jst trust him, that like everyone else he wouldn't hurt me... he swore that all he wanted was to make me happy and that I'm the only one he wanted, over and over he promised, he aaid he doesn't have a wandering eye and that he only loves me. He said he wanted to marry me no matter how many times i said I'll never be that girl, he begged me to commit to him, to give him a chance and that nothing would ever come between me and him, he told me he is the only one who can make me happy. He sounded so sincere, his promises weren't just words he made up, he meant it. I asked him if he was gonna leave me but he replied "my love you are my dream girl, i want to grow old with you and i swear on my life I'd never leave you or do anything to intentionally hurt you. I love you pumkin" i started to commit to him, i kept thinking of our future. Later i found out he has been cheating... he didn't even deny it. How could he do this so easily? Are all men like this? What am i suppose to do?
Most Helpful Guy
Some guys are very good at discovering and taking advantage of insecurities and sensitivities. You didn't do anything wrong. He preyed on your past hurts for his own benefit. Whatever you do, stay as far away from that guy as possible. As bad as the pain is now, it would only get worse if you stayed with him. He's not a guy that did a few bad things, he's a bad guy. As awful as it feels right now, you're strong enough to survive the pain.
Not all guys are as bad as he is. You just have to do what all women do: sort through the pile until you find a good one. How do you know a good one? Forget 99% of what they say. Go by how they treat you. And stay away from the ones that tell you that they're the only one for you.2
Most Helpful Girl
"I changed myself to be the girl he wanted. " - that's where you went wrong. You become someone else to be someone he wanted. So really you created an illusion- you compromised yourself to keep him. So he wasn't in love with you. He loved the image you created yourself.
He may have genuinely liked you, and may have meant what he said at the time, but some people are only loyal to their needs, once their needs change so do their priorities. You obviously stopped being his priority.
All men are not like that , just like all women are not unfaithful or deceitful. So try not to allow his behaviour to define you in a negative way. Just learn a valuable lesson from it -never change who you are as a person because if you do... how can any guy love who you are, if you have to be someone else to be with them
His actions are a statement about who he is as person, it's a reflection of his character... not yours. He is obviously not the person you thought he was. Heartbreak is inevitable at times, so although you feel hurt and betrayed right now... you will heal and you will love again.0