And here's the catch -- he hasn't actually don't anythung to make me not trust him. I have a hard time trusting people.
We've been dating for 9 months, and by now I should fully trust him yes? But I still don't. I don't trust that he actually likes me, or that he isn't going to run off with some othe girl. But this isn't the first guy I've felt like this with. Usually when I get these weird insecure feelings, I just break up with them, but I've stuck with this one and so has he. But I feel like I need to get over this insecurity and I really don't know how to just force myself to to do so.
Most Helpful Guy
Well, it is called growing up I suppose.. Trust me, accepting yourself and building confidence is a constant fight that will linger with you throughout adulthood. At least you realize it is a problem and you are self-aware. He is a good guy (right?) and obviously the issue is not caused by the guys you are dating, but by your own head. So, why would you let this good guy slip away.
Keep track of your behavior and reflect back on everything you doubt about him and think about it closely and deeply. Get out of your own head and start observing your train of thought. Don't be biased or defensive, because this is you assessing you and that shouldn't threaten you. This is an inner battle and it is unfair to bring people into it or blame them for it. If you feel like you are beginning to hurt him with your behavior and constant mistrust, then maybe you should let him go out of mercy. Otherwise, stick by him and meanwhile keep working on yourself like the rest of us.
Baby steps. Good luck. : D2
Most Helpful Girl
I have the same issue but a lot less than a year ago together for almost 3 years now. It's okay if your under 21 that's still definitely okay to feel like that but instead of focusing on that focus on the good things he does and recap that he doesn't do anything to make u feel like that