I’ll apologise beforehand for this long paragraph. I know not many are going to take me seriously since I’m only 17 but i’m hoping for some advice. My ex boyfriend and i were dating for 9 months. He never told me the reason he left, just said he lost feelings. He was sweet and caring. We used to study together and help each other with our weaker subjects, got into the best class together. He would wait for me to leave first after school before he would finally go home. On weekends, he would take me out for dates. Always made me happy and I could tell he really did love me. I love him so much and always made sure he knew.
He dumped me on new years eve, which was 1 month ago. Haven't contacted me. Ever since then i’ve been crying almost everyday. I lost weight because I don’t have any appetite to eat. I tried moving on, i really did. I’m doing NC, I’m acting happy in front of him, got a new haircut, bought new clothes but nothing seems to be working. Everything reminds me of him. I feel so pathetic. I’m convincing and lying to myself that he’ll come back eventually but it’s been a month and i know he won’t. Just 2 days before he left, he said he missed and loved me. How can he just get up and leave so easily? My friend talked to him he said i was controlling and will never go back to me again but i never stopped him from going out with his friends or anything. What’s worse is he hates me now because one of his friends told him i was trash talking about him behind his back but I don’t recall doing it. I don’t have anyone to talk to because I’m pretty sure my friends are sick of hearing me talk about him and i don’t want to bother them. I miss him so much but he won’t talk to me. Is there any chance of him coming back?
I have a major test coming up in 2 days and I don’t want this to affect my studies. My parents are very worried about me too. What should i do? Thanks so much for reading
Most Helpful Guy
he probably won't come back. pick up a hobby. and I don't know how this affects your ability to take tests. yeah, it sucks, but it can't be that horrible that it causes you to not be able to focus for an hour... and who studies? :P0
Most Helpful Girl
this is natural to still be upset after 1 month. when i went through something similar in high school it was really hard because it's the first time you've had what you thought to be a real relationship, and to see it fall apart is heartbreaking. trust me, you will get over this and they almost always come back. it might not be in a few months, it may be a year or more but i bet you he will be back. in the meantime, focus on your studies and have fun with your friends. i wish thats what i could have done in high school when i was worried about my boyfriend. you will never get these years back, so have fun with your friends and work on those relationships and having fun with them, it will distract you. when you do good in school and focus on other things and start healing, that's when they come back and you probably won't even care anymore.
if it's not working out and you guys don't get back together - that is a blessing in disguise. you will have the opportunity to meet so many other guys and find out what you really want. if i could go back to being 17 i would have stayed single in a heartbeat. you have so much to look forward to. good luck!0