But first, some quick background info...
My girlfriend recently just stopped talking to me out of nowhere. I felt like there was no reason for it, and I've tried contacting her for closure, but she just won't respond. Its been a few weeks now, and im beggining to transition away from her. But, when I think about it, I wonder if I truly miss her for who she was or if I miss her because i see her as more of a trophy.
Ill say this, she's very attractive, and I feel almost as if I had won something by gaining her. Like I had accomplished something that not many guys could (i think she plays hard to get). But when I look back at everything besides her good looks, I feel like that there really wasn't much else underneath that surface. Id say she's one of the better looking women I've been with, but defiently not the most affectionate in any department. When I look at it this way I wonder if I just miss her because I feel that "trophy" I once had was now gone and will one day go to someone else.
Does anyone have any further insight an such a situation?
Most Helpful Girl
From what you've told us I believe that this is definitely a trophy situation. Because you said so yourself, she's the best looking you ever dated and you had to work hard for her, but she didn't satisfy your needs for affection. The affection and closeness is the nurturing part of the relationship, but if you don't have that, then all thats felt to admire are her looks, which is a superficial aspect, so all you're left with is a trophy. That was a lot of psycho babble, I hope it was helpful :) hahaha2
Most Helpful Guy
You just miss the trophy.0