He goes out and drinks every other weekend and it's not just a few drinks, it's him getting shitfaced with his friends. We argue about it every single time. He broke up with me because "I can't let him loose sometimes." I fully understand that it's healthy to spend time away from your significant other and with friends, but not when you can't be responsible. He texted me right after we broke up and was like "You know I love you, you just can't be all in my case all the time." It was a lot longer than that, but you get he jist... I guess my real question is, why choose to go out and get drunk and be irresponsible at 27 years old instead of focusing on your relationship and settle down? How can I phrase that to him to make it sound more appealing to chose me and being happy over being drunk and not feeling good for the rest of the weekend?
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I guess because he wants BOTH he doesn't feel like his actions with his friends to prove that he's not able to settle down. You're not suppose to be an option so if he "chooses" his freedom over you then it's done. Its the way he's going to be and he isn't going to change unless he wants to change, maybe he feels that something else is behind it like you don't trust I'm when he's drunk?0