So this guy chased me hard in the 1st and 2nd date. On our "Planned 3rd" date he bailed on me saying he wasn't feeling well , this was a Saturday! so he rescheduled. I was so bummed but nontheless, I gave him the benefit of the doubt because, shit happens.
Finally, on the 3rd date (make up date) we went bowling on Friday, and guess what? it happened so fast, he didn't spend the entire Friday night with me. After bowling he left immediately as if he has somewhere else to go which left me kinda confused. That same night he was asking me that he wants a romantic/relaxing date at his place, I agree as a 4th date. That was also the time that he made us exclusive.
anyways that week, I over thought things by analyzing his actions and the red flags I was kinda feeling, and ended up breaking the title because I was having trust issues.
I noticed things went downhill which I regret. I even told him what those red flags were (which was a big mistake on my part and I blame myself up to this day for even saying those) anyways, That weekend we were suppose to hang out but instead, the douche ghosted me!
He didn't even texted me on the day we were suppose to hang. That's strike 1 Another strike 2, just last Saturday, he planned to hang out over the weekend because apparently "I want to see you again" is what he said. Well, I didn't hear from him much that week. It was those type of convo just enough to let me know he is interested.
Then finally on the day of, he canceled on me saying "I have a killer headache can we possibly go tomorrow?"I didn't believe that shit and told him "It's been nice knowing you, take care." I haven't heard from him since. what the f*** just happened? and here I am trying so hard to get over him but it's so tough. Will he back you guys think? Where did I go wrong?
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You didn't do anything wrong and it doesn't sound like he did either.
The challenge of dating is figuring out who you really like enough to have a relationship with and with rejection, it's a good thing!
It's good because everyone deserves to be with someone who REALLY wants them (physically and mentally). A lot of rejection happens because the feelings just aren't there for one or both people.
So, it's always one of three "Would Your Rather" situations when the feelings aren't there:
1. Would you rather he keep seeing you, even if he's not that into you and he doesn't see any kind of future with you?
2. Would you rather he just be honest (as most women and men demand) and he tell you to your face that he's just not that attracted to you, or he likes someone else better?
3. Would you rather he awkwardly or rudely disappear from your life so you can be free to meet some guy who thinks you're amazing?
For most single people, option 3 is usually the best scenario (even if it's temporarily frustrating).
When you meet a great guy who chases YOU, you'll be glad this guy didn't string you along and it won't bother you one bit.
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