My ex wants to chat, but it's half hearted nonsense messages 2 years after dumping me. He done things that were borderline evil to me and to this day picking my self esteem up from the gutter. Now he wants to chat I've only replied to one message of hi, he asked how I was but I never replied and don't think I ever will. I've shut communication off now by deleting the messenger app on my phone.
He apologised before but in my life I think actions speak louder than words and to be truly sorry would never be to contact me again, right?
I begged for months to him after he dumped me and it was abuse and nastiness from his end until he shut me off and blocked me, I moved on! now for the year I've been out his life he thinks he can come back.. I'm no mug I have no trouble cutting people from my life who have hurt and abused me- my dad for example.
What irks me is that he doesn't really understand how much he hurt me, but by ignoring these pointless messages he sends is that sending the message across that I don't want him back in my life? As if he cares how I am lol, after the stuff he done he should be ashamed of ever contacting me again. complete nerve of him!
has anyone experienced this before? Share your story and what you done to make a point to someone that hurt you.
Most Helpful Guy
I have. Several times.
I've given them opportunities to redeem their-selves, but people don't change for the most part.
Out of the 7 people I've cut out of my life for being toxic, cancerous relationships, only 1 has come back and proved she was genuinely changed and penitent.0
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Most Helpful Girl
Wow I'm coming across many post lately involving possible narcissistic people. He is probably narcissistic (if you haven't considered it please google narcissistic boyfriend) or he could be just plain screwy in the head. You should leave him alone and/or let him know you do not want anything to do with him. He destroyed you, and why is he come back around, wants something from you?
Or sick enough to see how you are making it after he treated you cruelly. I would give him a piece of my mind and send him on his way. I have not had a boyfriend like that, but I have had people like that - clear narcissist and the sick thing about them is they pretend to care, smile in your face while either looking for your weaknesses or taking pleasure in your suffering.
I have been plenty hurt by people like that and I usually would get into arguments with them and voice I felt. Then I realize arguing with such people was pointless as they are not any type of reasonable or even wanting peace. I learned to stop arguing and just cut them out of my life, that is all that can be done.0
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