Does the guy really have feelings for the girl if he asks the girl out and they are taking things slow (not official) then pushes her away... because he really wasn't ready?
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I know it can seem maddening when you receive seemingly mixed signals, and are trying to figure out if the "hot" signal is the real one, or the "cold" one, how long to wait before starting to talk to others etc etc.
The answer is that there is no cheese down that tunnel. Trying to figure people's behavior out isn't very productive. If you will focus on what makes you happy, moment to moment, then you will either get a great idea for an action to take regarding this guy, or you will meet someone else.
So, try to take it easy on yourself and quiet your mind. It's always beneficial and will lead you to this or another relationship faster.