Married 4 years. Didn't understand the level of commitment involved in marriage but went along with it since I wanted stability and love. Got along well but to be frank, didn't have much conversation since he was studying about 3 years of the marriage. I was fantasizing of sex with other men after 7 months of marriage. I didn't cheat at any point due to my values. I toyed with the thought of trying to fall in love and loving him but my heart was more focussed on others. I've informed him about my stance and he is in deep deep pain. He has dreams for a future together and children. I know he loves me very much. I'm more focussed on a guy I've fancied for the last 3 weeks...
He wants to keep fighting for our marriage and to get counselling. I'm not really interested. I desire to leave... maybe to nothing and nobody but instead get to know myself as person as prior to marriage, I was locked away, sheltered and told what to do... I had deep inner screaming sexual urges but was 'punished' for thinking that way...
Most Helpful Guy
why be miserable? while he sounds like a great guy and wants to work with it, why take the chance of you slipping and ebing with somone and some how end up with this other persons kid? protection isn't 100% fool proof and it would just make it so much worse and you would look like a bad person by everyone except by those who really care for your feelings on things.
i believe in marriage and not divorce but if i had to chose between someone being miserable and being happy i would let them make that choice and would do what they wanted. because not doing it and ending up being with someone else while your married is really taboo to a lot of people.2
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Most Helpful Girl
It has not even been Married 7 years here, dear, And already you are in a Relationship Rut of Having the 'Married 4 years' Itch.
It is quite Obvious there is no Love Loss on your own end, So the Best from the Rest thing to do is set him Free and to give Both of you another Chance for Romance.
The Grass is not always Greener on the other side of the fence but with no love in your own Heart, At least he can find true love once again in his own.
The next time, Make sure it is What and Who you Want. For now, Take your Time down the Love Line.
Good luck. xx0
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