A girl I've been dating for a few months has essentially ended things with me. We had some great times together the first month and were together quite a bit. After that though contact was less frequent and when I try to get together with her she's usually busy. As of now she just hasn't even responded to my last text. All these signs kinda point to break up but she hasn't officially said she wants to, she's just stopped contacting me. This kinda thing is hard to deal with as it is, but what has me feeling so many conflicting emotions is that absolutely nothing went wrong. The last time I saw her she kissed me good bye and everything seemed normal, there was no fight or disagreement. It was my first relationship and though I felt confused at times I honestly can't think of anything I did that would have upset her, but she won't contact me so I have no way of talking to her about it. This has been very hard for me to move on from. The fact that it was my first relationship is probably a big part of that, but also the fact that I was given no reason for why its over or if its over. I guess my question is has anyone else had a relationship that was going great just end all of a sudden because the other person just stopped making contact? If so, how did you deal with it?
Most Helpful Girl
Man that really sucks, I'm especially sorry your first relationship was with such an immature human.
Sure, maybe she has reasons, maybe someone died in the family!, but if you're mature enough to be involved with someone else, then you can tell them "look such and such happened, I need space". And sure granted you two were relatively new, it's still someone you started seeing.
I can't really say much I guess, for me, you give it a suitable amount of time of no contact from her, and you doing all you can to try and contact her - calling every now and then, texts every so often, eventually getting less and less and finally when it's been long enough you feel you could move on and it not be "cheating", you send a message saying how you see yourself as single again, you're moving on etc.
I'd deal with it by telling myself it wasn't my fault. Some people just do crap things, aren't mature, have no respect for others etc. And even though you can visibly see nothing wrong with the relationship, that could be what was wrong for her! Some people LOOK for bad things, and she could've seen it as "too perfect" and the issues in her mind are telling her "oh have to leave". Whatever. So it's not your fault, you're doing what you can, said yourself you don't want to be the creepy stalker dude, and that's also mature of you. Just, give it the time, while still making the effort for a little while until you won't feel guilty to deem yourself "single" again.0
Most Helpful Guy
I think that something must have been personal and private and that is really important that had came up in her life and needs or demands her full attention right now, and it might be that whatever has happened might be bad or really worse and she don't want you to to know about it, asking about it or involved you in any way it. Just my guesses, not saying it absolutely is what I think it might be.
Right now there is nothing more you can do, if she is not responding to any of your contact attempts. From here on out, it is beyond your control, as something must have changed and something must have happened. Maybe she changed her mind about you, as that could also happen and again that's also beyond your control, it was her decision and sometimes when people decide to break up they won't even be open and honest and come forward and break up with you clearly face to face and would rather just go complete radio silence.
Also, any idea if it was her first relationship as well?
The Only thing left is to not dwell on it, and become obsessed and unhappy about what has happened, as these kind of things can and does happen and I'm sure you aren't the only or first person that had this kind of situation happened to before.0
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