There's a long backstory but it's mostly irrelevant at this point. My ex from 3 years ago found a girlfriend soon after I moved across the country. I, for some reason, wanted nothing to do with him at the time and therefore, didn't mind that this girl was his "rebound". Then, he continued to text me behind this girls back. And we both can honestly say that we never got over each other. We were each other's "first loves" and believed that we would get married one day. Now, two years and a few months later, this rebound girl is still there. And he STILL texts me without her knowing. Please don't say that it's wrong on my part, in my opinion he can talk to whoever he chooses to talk to. And she has never liked me for no reason at all, so I treat her the same way. Anyway, within the last few months, he's been texting me nonstop. Not just every few days like he used to. Literally every day, any time he gets a chance. He's always asking for pictures, saying how beautiful I am, asks me if I've found anyone yet & gets super jealous if I go on dates, even went as far as saying that he would like to meet up with me (to talk/see me), and stated that things haven't been going good with them lately, she's always yelling at him and telling him what he can/can't do, that he finally realized he never stopped loving me and never started loving her, that he doesn't think of her how he thinks of me, blah blah blah. And I feel the same way about him to an extent. I feel like I never stopped loving him. But then, he stopped texting me because he went on vacation with her and he doesn't want her to know that he's ever talked to me. But those previous things that I listed were the last things he's told me. It's killing me waiting for him to get back because I want to know how it went. But I've heard that it's common for couples to break up after vacation. Not that I'm "trying" to break them up I just found it relatable to my situation. So where do you believe this situation is headed?
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Yes, that's what I've heard sometimes. It's because during vacation you have more time to spend with your partner and for taking decisions about relationship. On day-to-day you don't have time because of job, stress... and if there's something wrong with relationship you blame it on stress because of job and its rutine. So you face vacations to smooth things and strengthen relationship. If this doesn't happen, before returning to the rutine you know there's nothing to do.
Like I said, that's when on day-to-day relationship is not good and strong enough.1