My boyfriend cheated on me really bad, should i take revenge or just let him go?
he did it with the girl i hate the most.
Most Helpful Guy
I'm sorry to hear that. you are very pretty, so that isn't an issue (attraction).
If he cheated with someone who he knows is someone you dislike then do you think he was trying to "get at you" and hurt you. In other words, was your relationship emotionally difficult, fighting, not getting along, conflicts, e tc? the fact you say "take revenge" as an option tells me you two were at war emotionally.
He may have cheated in the sense the relationship was dying and he isn't mature enough to end this one before moving on. he may have done it because he has no morals to be with one person.
What to do requires knowing what the status is of this... but in general, I think both of you need professional counselor to help you because that was bad, my guess is it was bad before, and you really need to learn from these mistakes so you don't repeat them again. There is likely more going on below the surface (sub conscious) in both of you.
Note, not all guys are like that, but many are. Most people are not mature at that age, especially guys... they are hormonally driven with little moral compass to guide them.
I say dump him, but get counseling. Revenge means you feel shame, maybe fear, and anger... core human emotions... the bad ones! Don't do that, don't submit to those feelings. Find forgiveness, love (of self), understanding, etc.. I'm not saying that is easy. you cna't go through life screwing people that screw you... you'll leave a long trail of dead and wounded bodies...
P. S. God, that is Jesus, dealt with those core human emotions and should be explored to correct that reaction.
Most Helpful Girl
Just move on. That's the best revenge you can do.1