Well after leaving my wife 3 years ago I have finally started to file for a divorce. Court fees paid and papers signed. As much as I am looking forward to it going through (hopefully as stress free as possible) I'm also nervous about it as this is the first time & hopefully the last time. Things seem to have started to look up for me (finally) over the last few months and didn't want this lingering over me any longer. Anyone who has been through a divorce how long did it take roughly (I know it depends case by case) and have you got any advice that could help me?
Thanks in advance
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Mine took about 8 months from filing until final, but it was 8 months of hell and games. She managed to wear herself out with the games she was playing, and when the guy she was cheating on me with called my lawyer and offered to testify on my behalf in court, suddenly the games stopped and she accepted the deal I offered.
You're going to get fucked over, hard. The fucking you're about to get is your punishment for being male and stupid enough to get married. Hey it's OK bud, I've been there too. Just celebrated 4 years of freedom a few days ago. through this whole thing, just remember that life gets A LOT better once you're single again.
Best advice is try to work something out between the two of you as far as division of property/assets/debt goes. Anything you two can agree on will save you money on lawyer fees.
Try to make sure you're not stuck paying vagimony. I gave up more of my retirement in order to avoid having to be raped again every month writing out a check to support her.
There are books you can read that will help you out. I can't remember the name of the one, something like "The Man's Guide to Winning at Divorce". Another is "Divorce Lawyer Dirty Tricks", for in case you can't come up with an agreement together and she wants to fight.
The ABSOLUTE best advice you will ever get, and will probably ignore:
You are regaining your life and freedom. This is basically a second chance. Don't throw it away. DO NOT ever get married again, or have a relationship that the State could determine is a 'common law' marriage.1