We've been together for two years and I love him but I don't know if I'm in love with him. I need some outside perspective.
· Reasons to stay
o I love him.
o He might be my soul mate.
o Our values line up.
o Our plans line up.
o He’s been there through everything.
o He loves me.
o I’m scared to leave him.
o If I leave him, I’m afraid I’ll never find love like this again.
o His personality.
· Reasons to leave
o I want more time for myself.
o I need time to grow up.
o I want to meet other people.
o I’m bored with him.
o Everything he does annoys me.
o He’s so immature.
o He is not in tune with his emotions.
o He doesn’t put effort into me.
o What if he isn’t the one?
o I’m afraid to commit.
o The sex is boring.
o I’m less attracted to him than before.
o His mother.
o I have feelings for someone else.
Most Helpful Guy
I saying that you tell him that you want to BREAK UP not want some space. Breaking up is more legitimizing an end to a chapter in your life with him having a place in it. Creating the "want some space" is too indecisive and more often than not it leads to a break up anyways and not on amiable terms.1
Most Helpful Girl
Leave. If you're not sure if you're in love with him, and have feelings for someone else, you're not in love with him1