A while back I was ghosted by my first girlfriend. When I realized she was ghosting me I was devastated and was basically depressed for like a month or more. I thought about her constantly, but as time went on I felt a little better and tried to get back to a semi normal routine. The last couple months have been better, I've still been thinking about her but less frequently and I've been going through the school and work routine. However, for the last couple weeks I'm back to constantly thinking about her and its almost worse than immediately after the break up. Like I will just be laying there and stop whatever I'm doing and think about her and last night I even had a dream about her where we were back together. She will not talk to me anymore and I'm guessing there's no chance she'll ever want to be with me again, yet my sadness and thinking about her is at an all time high since she left. Does anyone know how I can get over her?
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You need to keep busy. I think the problem is your mind is allowed to wander and start thinking about her. Try to remind yourself of why it didn't work out and focus on the positives. Focus on the fresh start you get now. Think about the things you didn't like about your girlfriend and be grateful that you no longer have those barriers in your life. I know that sounds really mean to think that way. But I've dated guys who didn't like specific foods, and I love food. And so when we were no longer together, I could now indulge in those foods without hearing complaints.
It's nice sometimes to have the freedom to do things you wouldn't otherwise have gotten to do. Go out, reconnect with some old friends and make new friends. Join a club, invest in yourself, get a haircut, buy some new clothes, take yourself on a trip. Do things that heal your soul.
Break ups are tough and it's okay to be hurting through a break up. But the best thing you can do is to grieve and try to move on. It's not the end of the world, even though it definitely feels like it. You will get over her, like you have gotten over others in the past. It will pass! And you will start to feel renewed! :)1