Me and him have been together for 3 months and recently he's been having massive anxiety issues that have kept him at home. It's been going on for about a month and I have honestly felt the strain. A couple days ago he told me that he doesn't want to drag me through the anxiety anymore and he wants some space and time to find himself again and get back to normal where he doesn't get an anxiety attack everytime he leaves home. He said he knows that it will mess us up if we stay together while he's sick. The past month it's gotten to the point where he barely responds or shows emotion. After we broke up, he hasn't responded at all.
I'm just heartbroken and don't know what to think or how to move forward. My sister read the messages and said that he isn't wanting to cut off all connection with me. He made sure to tell me "Please don't think I never want to talk to or see you again" and "this isn't any easier for me".
I'm just so confused and don't know what to think. I still love and care for him and am lost now. Will he come back? It seemed like he really did like me back but now I don't know
Most Helpful Guy
You are very young and you don't have years already invested in this guy. He is not the only guy who could ever be interested in you, so you should ask yourself: am I willing to live with this for the rest of my life?3
Most Helpful Girl
For someone with GA I get what he's going through. I often power down and cut people off when I am having severe anxiety issues as well, essentially isolating myself. It decreases the pressure of having to worry and tend to the emotions and needs of others when you feel you can't balance your own, and frees you from judgment and responsibility. However...
When it comes to your partner, that needs to be a bit of a different story. I don't think he should have broke up with you. I feel if he needed distance, that's one thing, but severing ties with you is not necessary and not the best way to approach the situation. Eventually, you have to learn to let people in.
Just reach out, let him know that you're there. Then wait. There is little else that can be done.1