My girlfriend for 3 years already had a little trust issues with me. We finally made up and got back after a month break up. Everything was going amazing. When we first started dating she caught me talking to girls a lot which kinda ruined trust.
just yesterday she snooped through my phone and saw a conversation which was flirty with another girl. She broke down and now we're broken up. I feel like now I completely ruined it. I've reached the point where I dug myself too deep.
How can I fix myself. She's given me many chances. I'm bringing her flowers today, I want to write a note too. What should I say? What should I do. I know it was wrong of me to text this other girl, I wouldn't do anything with her. I want my girl back
Most Helpful Girl
Leave her alone and just let it go. You cannot fix this mistake. The problem has to do with you. She took you back once and you did it again. Do you really think she is going to be happy knowing your bringing her flowers? She will just view it as a copout because your desperate. And desperate is not attractive. You need to change. And you have to do if for yourself, not because of her. Because if you do this to another girl, what do you think the answer is going be? The same thing. You need to stop getting girls numbers, and flirting with them. I don't blame her at all. This should be a learning lesson for you. Some girls don't mind playing games, and then you will come across girls like her and me who won't tolerate it even the first time. You played with fire and you got burned. Writing her a note with flowers will not get her back. I'm telling you now. You literally screwed it up. She's looking to move on. And I suggest that you do too. Again, you need to learn this serious mistake.0
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Most Helpful Guy
First, you need to recognize that this isn't completely your fault. True, shouldn't be flirting with girls over text, but in the end, it's all speculation. I myself have several friends who are girls and if my fiancee freaked out every time I sent a winky face to one of them, we would never survive. So the question I have to ask you is why do you want to get back with your girl so badly when it's clear you both have several issues to work out? Her trust issues, though you have a slight hand in, are not responsible for her feelings. She doesn't have the right to keep you locked into a cage only talking to boys. With that said, you know she doesn't like you talking to girls, so if you really want to get back together with her, you need to stop talking to other girls all together. This is impossible since half the world is girls and you can't escape that. So my advice to you is to talk to her, really talk to her. Apologize, of course, but you need to be clear that you talking to other girls is a thing. You can promise not to be so flirty with them, but then there's the other issue of her snooping though your phone. I have a serious problem with girls thinking they have the right to do this. Being real will not only set a good boundary with her, but also give you a chance at a real relationship rather than her controlling you in everything.0