So last week my then girlfriend dumped me. It was all very unexpected because I didn't see it coming at all, we were so happy together. She gave some stupid reason which I didn't buy for the break-up. Turns out, just like I suspected, she made out with another guy. I found this out from my gf's best friend's boyfriend. Here's the story:
She went to a small party with her coworkers. They ended up doing mdma (she took 3 hits and she's a novice), drinking (15 drinks), and smoking weed. She was very fucked up. There was a guy at the party that I knew she was very sexually attracted to (supposedly she didn't know he was going to be there). Anyway, him and my girlfriend spent a lot of time together and it sounds like he was taking advantage of her state. My girlfriend was grinding her teeth like crazy and he said they should go get gum. They went to get gum (it was only a 5min walk) and he ended up walking her to a park where they talked. He asked her to hold his arm and then he kissed her. They had a full make-out session for about an hour, then went to the party.
Anyway, girlfriend tried to hide it from me but something seemed off and she told me that he was hitting on her but said she never cheated. I trusted her and put it behinds us. The very next day, she dumped me. I know it'scrazy that I want her back and that I shouldn't, but she was extremely messed up and I can see how it can happen without her even thinking it's a bad idea at the moment since I know I've done things on mdma (just 1 hit, let alone 3 + everything else) that I normally wouldn't have. She also did break up with me because she felt so guilty and she felt she didn't deserve after that. My source also tells me that she's not taking it well and knows how badly she fucked up and that she can't believe she did what she did. I am deeply in love with this girl. She's going to be moving to another country in 3 months. Should I take her back so we at least have 3 more months together?
Most Helpful Girl
In this particular scenario I probably wouldn't take her back, but the biggest reason isn't for the kiss. She made some pretty average choices that night and put herself in the position for the kiss to happen. Going to a party and taking a drug cocktail (which honestly what kind of novice would take that much and then mix?) hanging out with a guy she has the hots for and without a sober friend to watch out for her... she's seriously lucky it wasn't just a kiss.
It's like accepting a hot guys invitation to come over and watch Netflix and have a hot pocket. It sounds like a pretty good time but it's putting yourself in a position where you may need to make a choice: cheating or not. Why put yourself in that position?2
Most Helpful Guy
I hate to break it to you, but she was probably looking for an excuse to break up, she doesn't feel sorry at all, "it's not you it's me" is the biggest BS line ever uttered. Getting smashed, drugged up and then making out with a guy she finds very attractive is all part of her twisted plan to have a clean break from you.
Have some pride in yourself man and let this one go, there are plenty of good women out there who make better partners.2