So after months and months of constant fighting and emotional abuse from my boyfriend, I finally had the strength to end the relationship tonight ( he has been calling me names and treating me badly all day, I'm already depressed and don't like myself as it is) and at first I felt so good about myself for the first time in a long time but then he pulled the suicide card and how I "ruined his life" by breaking up with him. Now I'm scared and starting to feel guilty if he really does follow through with this threat. I called him a few times, no answer, texted him and nothing so I'm slowly losing my mind right now and don't know what to do..
Most Helpful Guy
It's moral blackmail.
Hit the "Eject" button as far as the relationship is concerned. He's no good for you. He's no good for anybody until he sorts his own problems out. These problems are between *his* ears and might be irresolvable, in which case you want to stay away from him long enough for him to go chasing after someone else.
Think through your personal safety in the short term, even if you don't have to act on these thoughts. Do you have any large, armed, male relatives you could go and crash with?0
Most Helpful Girl
No, there is nothing for you to feel guilty over if he truly decided to take his own life. You are not responsible for his mess and what he decided to do. The best way to handle this is to get the authorities involved. He has serious major issues, and it's so bad that he has to resort to killing himself over his problems. He needs serious counseling and so do you for your sanity after dealing with emotional abuse. That relationship was not healthy to begin with. You've done all that you could have done. And leaving him was the wise decision. Because god forbid you stayed with him any longer. Your life would have been on the line as well. That is something that you need to seriously think about. But that relationship needed to end. Or it would have ended in the worse way possible.1