She was my first serious girlfriend and we were together for a year. She dumped me around 2 months ago, possibly for cheating when she had a crazy night out which involved many drugs. We haven't spoken much since the breakup. I'm visiting my family at the moment and we're in different time zones (she's 15 hours ahead) so it's Christmas for her but not for me. I spent the last Christmas with her and her family and her family and I were very close (parents and brother wanted me as a son-in-law).
Before people say anything, yes, I'm not completely over her, but I'm almost there and I've even been seeing a new girl for over a month. I don't want to be friends with her because of what she did, but she was the first girl I was in love with and wanted to marry so I still want to have some idea of how her life is once in while, like a relative you hate.
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Most Helpful Girl
I mean, why not? I think you're better off without her. If you feel like it's the right thing to do and you just have genuine intentions, then why not. I just gotta warn you that if you have any expectations from her, you might get hurt, even if you think you won't.
If you kinda just want to wish her without showing too much care, you could pretend it's a mass text and send like a general merry Christmas message.1
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Most Helpful Guy
You have to cut ties sometimes. You can't keep trying to connect. You both need to move on in your separate ways.1