How do I end things with someone I am seeing without disappointing her/hurting feelings?
OK, so I have a big problem with upsetting people/hurting their feelings. I really don't like to do it, so I generally try to please them as much as possible. This plays out in my dating game, because if I start seeing a girl and she likes me a lot, I kind of feel obligated to keep seeing her even if I am not that into her, which I know is bad for both of us.
Usually, I will just let things play out until the girl ends things with me, so that way I don't have to be the one to do it. I realize that I need to work on that though, because that is not a very effective or fair strategy.
So in my current situation, I was seeing a girl I was crazy about, but things didn't work out. Now I'm seeing a new girl, and she seems to be really into me (if only the previous girl could have been into me the way this one is, but alas, that is life). I don't mind her company, and she is nice, intelligent and funny, but I just don't feel a strong desire to keep seeing her, yet I am continuing to do so, mainly out of boredom and the desire to avoid telling her I'm not interested.
So I guess I'd like to hear how you all handle situations like this, what you tell the person, etc. I have told a few girls that I was not interested in the past, but I don't feel like I handled those situations particularly well, and I feel like I let things draw out a little too much for fear of ending them. I figure I should have learned a good way of doing this by now, as it is by far the weakest part of my dating game. Any advice would be appreciated.
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