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How do I end things with someone I am seeing without disappointing her/hurting feelings?

OK, so I have a big problem with upsetting people/hurting their feelings. I really don't like to do it, so I generally try to please them as much as... Show More

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  • I'm the same way. I hate hurting people and will avoid it at all costs. It's not good to lead someone on, but I guess I take the coward's approach in not telling him what I'm really feeling because it's just easier to go with the flow instead of putting an end to things.

    With my ex, he was really into me and he was the sweetest guy in the world. But there was just no chemistry for me. I liked him as a friend. But after a few months of "leading him on", I finally decided to end things by telling him that he's a great person, I'll always care for him and I'll always be there for him. But at this stage in my life, I'm just not ready to be in a relationship. That I wanted to be done with grad school before getting serious with anyone, etc".

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  • well,...first of all, I would advise you to stop kinda leading them on by hanging out with them when you are no longer interested. even if you mean good by it, it is a mean thing to do...that being said, Just honestly say how you feel about her, you probably thought they were nice enough but just wern't interested in them as a relationship, offer friendship if you think you can still like this person as a friend. I mean, if you date, break up is going to happen. There is no real way to lay the news down nicley...someone is getting rejected as a lover, ofcource it is not all fuzzy and wonderful,...but be honest and pleasant about it.

  • You gotta do what you gotta do.

    Don't lead her on anymore your giving her hopes tha your into her.

    If I were her I rather hear it from your mouth that it's not working out.

    Instead of my friend telling me she saw you down at the movies with so and so

    that's saving me embarrassment,

  • just break up with her in a nice way. most relationships are going to end anyway but the best thing to do is respectfully break up with her. its wrong to keep seeing someone out of obligation, its actually nicer and more respectful to breakup with them

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