I know it sounds silly but here is the thing. The last year of our LDR was on and off. There were months we were ‘together’ and there were months we were not. (she claimed she was seeing the guy when we were not together, but I do not buy that). We were in continuous contact for the whole year and there was no way that I could think we were separated (or have no hope of getting back together) for real as she was missing me, asking me when I return back and treating me romantically.
At the end of the year, she confessed and told me that she had been dating this other guy and she cried and asked for apology and our relationship back. She said he is an accident and she is no way intimate to him and she stopped seeing him. It was hard for me but I understood the LDR may have been hard on her and I believed she was not intimate with the guy and I gave her my heart and forgiveness. Hell broke loose soon she could not be committed to me after 3 weeks of getting my forgiveness. She became distant and careless again and told me we should re evaluate our relationship after meeting in person.
I went back home after a couple of months and met her. I hoped things would work out when we meet in person. Again, she was cold as ice to me and basically told me we have no hope. I took that word and was trying to forget her. Then she does not want to stop contact me to try to see if things work out. While I was still back home, I saw text messages on her phone and discovered that her affair is more advanced and intimate than I thought. I tried to break her off again.
Once again, she said she is sorry and asked me to try things out with me before I travel back again. I asked if she can be committed to me this time and not fail me like the previous time. She took her time to think and told me that she wants to marry me and live with me BUT she is in a bad and unstable mood right now and needs time before fully committing to me. What should I do?
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It's nice that you were able to forgive, that takes strength, and it's also nice that you take your relationship seriously. Since you've already given her a second chance and she failed to honor it, the best thing might be to leave her permanently (even though I know that can be really hard) since she is not ready for commitment yet and it's important that you look out for yourself because you are getting hurt and it will probably be easier to leave now than to drag it out further. The sooner you leave the sooner you'll heal and be happy. And who knows what the future might hold. :)2