We always talked about starting a family and he has started those conversations himself but a few months after the wedding he has been saying it would be good not to have babies as they'll just make it too hard. He went and bought a convertible without discussing it first last week and just brushed it off when I got upset he made such a big decision with our money without talking to me first.
I came right out and asked about starting to try for a baby but he just laughed and walked away. I don't understand what's changed or why he would be acting like this so soon after we get married.
Do I give it more time or leave?
- Wait it out53%(19)58%(42)Vote64%(23)
- Leave him now47%(17)42%(30)Vote36%(13)
Most Helpful Guy
Listen I'm going to tell you right now, get a separate bank account. Don't contribute to that savings account anymore. Once that is done you can wait it out for a bit and try to make it work. Stay away from those joint bank accounts though, they are always a bad idea.0
Most Helpful Girl
You need to work out what is important to you and then tell him those things again. Buying the car is a huge red flag that he believes he can do whatever he wants to satisfy himself. Sit down, tell him what you want, ask him to meet you halfway or to at least tell you exactly why he can't and then go from there. Make sure he tells you what he wants and needs too. It may some counselling might help as marriage is something to be worked at over time and he may need some clearer boundaries to help him get his mind on you both and not just him.3