Me and my girlfriend have been dating for seven months. Up until last week there was little to nothing about her that I could complain about. She is smart, committed, and outgoing. When gay marriage was legalized, I posted something on Facebook. I was against it at the time. I said "As some of you are aware, I am morally opposed to gay marriage. However, there is nothing I can do now, because this is a SCOTUS ruling. History has unfortunately chosen to proceed in the direction that I don't want it to. I'm just going to have to accept defeat like a man."
Last week my girlfriend discovered this post and confronted me about it. It was like she thought I cheated on her or something. She said that she wanted to break up with me for being against gay marriage. I told her that I evolved on the issue a couple months later. She apologized, I apologized, and we forgave each other. Three hours ago, I realized that because she was willing to break up with my over my original stance on gay marriage, she might not be the accepting woman I thought she was. I am worried that her reaction to the situation means that she has a personality that will compromise our relationship. Unfortunately, it's too late at night to call her, and talk about this. My anxiety is out of control, and I need an answer now.
I know people tend to say stupid things when they are emotional, but I am still worried that she might have been serious. Would you break up with someone over a simple political disagreement? Is being against gay marriage really all that bad of an opinion? Is this normal? Is my girlfriend's personality not what I originally thought it was? I really love this woman. I need your help.
Most Helpful Girl
I don't know if I would necessarily end the relationship but I definitely would have opened the discussion to see where we both stand. We don't have to 100% agree but if we were at complete opposite ends of the spectrum it would cause problems down the line.
My husband and I rightly disagree about a few sensitive issues so if we discuss them it's done respectfully and when we aren't tired or hungry haha. It's not a deal breaker and we try not to let it get heated1
Most Helpful Guy
Be careful bro. I'd advice you to break up with her. The signs are starting to show what kind of person she is, a"deserter". If she can threaten to break up with you due to minor issues that don't even relate to any of you, you better be careful.
I know of many couples who don't even have the same religion but married for over 30 years, but your girlfriend is threatening to leave because of you not loving homos? This is asides the fact that it was about something you posted a long time ago.
These are the qualities women who leave their husbands taking half his savings, properties, house and kids. These sort of women can't compromise. They'll end it all over a minor difference. Be wise bro. I don't want another guy here on GAG ranting after going MGTOW due to divorce.
If she can end it so easily, it means she believes she has a lot of better options out there, and doesn't see it as a big deal finding another dude in a second to replace you If she senses any inconsistencies or differences with you.
You should sit yourself down and ask yourself, could you truly go on a lifelong journey and covenant that is marriage with a girlfriend like the one that you have?
Be wise bro, there are soo many girls out there who understand the many sacrifices and compromises that need to be made in a relationship.
Dump her now that she has revealed how she truly is, and find yourself a good girl.