My ex and I dated for about 2 months I think and we stopped talking in the beginning of December. He wanted to break up because he was still depressed from his last relationship and thought he was ready to move on but realized he wanted to be alone to figure out his life and he just doesn't care for anything anyone or himself and he didn't want me to deal with that. He thinks I deserve better. He still has a hat and DVD I lent him. So I'm still in debates about asking for them back. He offered to give me them back but I live a bit away and we have different work schedules.
would it be weird to just message him out of the blue? I wanted to give him space and everything. But now I want to know how he's doing and make sure he's okay. When we stopped talking he never really wanted to ever get out of bed.
i miss him. He was the only guy I ever met that I clicked with so well and we have so many common interests. Like I feel there is a possibility of us being able to get back together I don't want to screw it up. I mean he looks at my snapchat stories and stuff so that's a good thing right?
would it be fine to just send him a text and ask him how he is? Or should I send a text with more of a purpose and ask for my things back?
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I think in your case you should talk to him. You have a man that is insecure. Ask him why he thinks he's not good enough for you. When he answers, make sure you point out why his reasons are invalid. It very hard to be with an insecure man. Usually the man is insecure in many more thing besides women and it impacts you as well. Does he make decisions or always defer to you and wait until you make the decisions. Will he pick a movie or is that your job? Is he comfortable in public settings like parties, clubs, etc. where he will meet new people? These are just a few things that insecurities can come into. Bottom line, I think you should contact him to set a time you can talk. If possible. it's much better to do this in person if you can. Texting is very impersonal and leaves holes in the conversation. I hope you can work this out.0
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