I've deleted him on Facebook and snapchat. We've been broken up for 3 months. 2 months after we broke up, and he's already talking to someone, which I doubt will last. He jumps from one person to the next and never deals with the emotions involved. I believe he was probably talking to her or scoping her out before we broke up. She stays closer to him and he said she's fun and that's what he wanted and needed and that she knows how to give space. Something I sucked at while we were together. Our break up shocked me, we weren't on the best of terms, but our last visit with each other was amazing (so I thought) and like 2 weeks after that he broke up with me. We stay 2 hours from each other. I'm not over him and I don't believe he's completely over me. He came to visit and did my pictures for my birthday and was flirting and kissing me and asking if I missed him. But then he started being shady, and he was hitting me up a lot too before he went distant.
Then he all of a sudden told me we needed to set boundaries, for a girl he "just met".. He could've set boundaries before he kissed me and flirted. He said he was trying to see if there was something he could still hold onto. And he made his decision... but kept claiming maybe in the future we'll work out. I know I shouldn't want him, but I still do. I loved him and still love him. He claims it was hard for him to let me go but I just don't believe that. He claims he still loves me but I don't believe that either... If he tried to come back in the future, I know I'd give him another chance. And I hate that I would. But why should I? I'm over here hurting while he's out with his distraction living it up. His own family says he doesn't know what he wants. How can I get over him and lose feelings for him. Fast... Please help? We're both 21 by the way.
Most Helpful Guy
Looks like he is not going to stick with any girl in the near future. This itself should be enough to motivate you to get over him. I mean... you have no future with him anyway.
Instead, turn your attention towards men who are interested in a genuine, fulfilling, long term relationship with you. Trust me, such men do exist.1
Most Helpful Girl
You get over him by cutting contact. Continuing to talk, flirt, etc. is not helping you to move on. You need to distance yourself from him. Don't worry about whether or not he's in a new relationship, focus on yourself right now. If you have any hobbies, spend time doing them. Stay busy and don't give yourself time to think about him or the failed relationship. Spend time with your family and friends who love you. Doing all of those things will help you move on. Ultimately though, it just takes time.2