I met a guy in the States, I'm from London. After 1 wk I returned home. For 4 months we spoke for hrs. Things started falling apart when I would try and schedule a trip to him... he would be too busy, leaving me with only 4 day gaps to visit him. I decided it was suspicious & cut him out. After 3 months of no contact, he wrote a letter which said our connection was amazing & why had I stopped speaking. We started again and things got better but I decided to check his instagram after he texted 'I won't have good reception as Im going camping this wknd'. Sure enough he was with his ex. He told me lied for fear of losing me again. He thought he would give her another chance when I disappeared but realised it wouldn't work. Even though we weren't in a relationship, it was a betrayal. I was shocked when I found out that he had called me that weekend whilst she was in the shower.. meaning they just had sex. He played us both. He eventually broke up with her permanently & 4 months later we were official on NYE. The plan was to come back in 8 months as I was saving up again to see if we were compatible in real life. We had only had 4 weeks physical time but 9 months telephone contact. He visited during the 4th month apart to see my friends & friends. Finally when I went to see him, I found out he had gone on craiglist asking about 20 girls for sex. I was so hurt. I lost so much money on this 3 month trip. After I flew home, I cut him out. After 5 wks he turned up on my doorstep. He said he realised what he lost, had gone to therapy as I said (5 sessions) to fix his issues of lying and cheating & would continue therapy & wanted to marry me. I found out he had slept with someone during our 5 wk recent break up. He had slept with someone 2 months before he said he loved me & lied about it. He accepted 2 blow jobs from girls around that time too & had slept with a girl whilst we were together. He lies so much. He's 7 years youngr. I love him but feel he'll cheat agin, 1 yr, 5yrs?
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honesty he might care about you but this is something that you don't need it seems to me you have invested to much of your love in to this guy and he doesn't deserve you or the time you have put in. I think you want to keep giving him chances because of how invested you are in him but you're better off just leaving him and it'll hurt and you'll be lost for a time but someone will come around and you'll be truly happy1